Becoming really "serious"

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I'll try to keep this short, as I gotta get to bed, but uh, I have a feeling I'm becoming "serious" again. It seems when I'm happy enough that I think the world and me are getting along well, I become more "laid back" and then when me and the world aren't seeming to get along well, I tend to just get...serious.

It's hard to describe, but serious is like the only term I can use to describe it. I don't know, I lose interest in like, unserious things, if that makes any sense. I've not watched television really since this summer, when I guess things started getting a bit tougher for me emotionally. I just become less "fun." I don't appreciate jokes and stuff as much, and I just become like, not "fun" and "easygoing" and all that. People start saying comments like "You need to relax more." Stuff like that.

I mean I'm sure you could say "oh maybe it's due to depression/anxiety/blah blah" and I don't know really. But yeah, lately I've gotten less "fun" and my friends notice it and stuff. I still manage to keep myself entertained, but my ways of entertaining myself seem to be less "fun" too, and more serious. I've gotten into figure skating, and most of the time when I skate, it's trying to learn really technical kinda edgework and all that, I much more rarely just sorta skate entirely like, recreationally in the purest sense. I've done the same thing with weightlifting, too, another hobby I've taken up as of late. I've gotten into the Olympic lifts, the most technical of all weightlifting you can do, where it seems like 80% of it is just skill alone. Coinciding, activities like that tend to distance me from people more, as not too many people like doing technical kinda stuff like that for their idea of fun, thus I get more isolated from people and then more serious.

The main point is like, I feel like I get into phases where if I'm emotionally feeling down, I'll get really "serious" and it's noticeable by me and I think others. Then for a brief moment, when I feel like everything is right in the world, I'll be less serious, but usually this "phase" is shortlived. So I'm what I'm sort of wondering is, does anyone else sorta get "serious" emotionally? How about when in serious mode in you go through phases of trying to be like, really good at stuff, or trying to make something really well, coinciding when you're "serious" emotionally, in your "serious" phases. I know this sorta seems like odd wording, but it's the only wording I can really think of it to describe it. I'm kinda wondering if anyone else goes through the same kinda cycles of "seriousness" as I do.

It's pretty reasonable to take things more seriously when you're not enjoying yourself.

It makes sense to be uninterested in zoning out in front of the TV when there are more important things that need to be dealt with. After a certain point you realise that you're just wasting time.

This happens to me. Things just stop being fun and i find it increasingly impossible to derive fun from what i normally love and life becomes so serious, its depression

I'll have to think about this one some more. I know I get really serious sometimes, and maybe it's from what you describe. I think people may have found me more serious in general when I was a less happy person in general, but I haven't thought about how it might go in cycles with my mood over time, as you describe.

I also know I can get serious about something for fun, and sometimes that's less fun for others. If they want to goof around and I want to be serious, that can distance us from each other. I often try not to show my frustration, but I don't know how well I really do that. Sometimes I can't seem to hide my feelings at all, even if I try.

I think I'm generally more serious than other people. It's part of why it's hard to relate to them. It's part of what I think causes them to lack depth in certain subject areas.

I'm not sure if this relates, but I have sudden mood swings. On Saturday my family came round and there was a lot of people in the living-room, and I felt in quite a good, relaxed mood, so I brought my laptop into the living-room and sat with them on my laptop. But after about 20 minutes or so, my mood switched from being happy to feeling irritable and snappy, and so I had to excuse myself from the room before I yelled at anyone and spoil the atmosphere. Nobody seemed to notice because I didn't say anything (best not to start grumbling when everyone else's talking and laughing, it then puts the dampers on them which, I admit, isn't fair on them). But when I was in my room, I heard loud talking and shuffling, which meant all the doors in the house were wide open and I could hear TVs blarring out, the kettle boiling loudly, people talking, the cat miaowing, and all the other noises that distract and irritate me. I couldn't put my earplugs in because I had a bit of an ear infection, and I couldn't listen to music because my laptop won't seem to download any music onto it, and I only know like two or three songs on each of my CDs so I'd have to keep changing them or listening to them on repeat which gets a bit boring, and I don't know how to install all media stuff because I don't know how. My cousin was going to come over and help me to install some more software but he's got a stupid girlfriend now so I suppose he's going to be all wrapped up in her now (see, that's what you get when all of your cousins are NTs, they find friends and lovers of their own and drop you completely).

Anyway - that's my rant over with, sorry about that.
I have lost interest in funny shows like You've Been Framed (similar to Funniest Home Videos). I don't feel normal when not liking that because that is something most people like, and serious things bore me so I would have thought I would like You've Been Framed, since it's completely the opposite of serious. But I just find it too predictable, there are either babies spitting on themselves or fat women falling off a swing or people falling over at weddings, and it's just not funny any more.

yes - it happens to me

if i spend my time thinking about things i use more of my analytical brain and less of my emotional brain

i am very high functioning, but can become quite robotic when i am trying to figure things out - especially other people and their emotional reactions (which was a killer for the 18 years i was around my Borderline Personality Disorder ex-wife - she was all over the map all the time)

so when i am relaxed, my left brain language and emotional brain dominates, when i am thinking hard my right brain dominates.

the psychologist who did my assessment said that there was a profound split in my hemispheres and that there was likely some issues with the neural interconnectivity between sides (or something like that)

^^^ that's pretty much it, in a nutshell.

And I'm quite serious to begin with. Never have been what they call the life and soul of the party. That doesn't bother me as not everyone can be like that. But I usually enjoy my own company and my hobbies, and when even those aren't enjoyable anymore, or in fact I can't be bothered doing them in the first place, then I know it's not a good sign.