Who the hell do you confide in...

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when part of what is bothering you the most is you are having an extreme amount of trouble giving a f**k about anyone else?

My best friend and #1 confidant is my wife. But I also talk with my two pastors, my neuropsychiatrist, my autistic cousin and my aunt, four male friends I know locally and four guys on this site.

Longshanks

I talk to myself, my cats, and the internet.

Well I think this is a good place to start!

Why does it bother you that you have trouble caring about people? (That question probably came out odd, sorry!)

Personally, I wish people well, but I accept the fact that I'm probably not wired to be as empathetic as most people, and - well, that's just how it is... Not something I beat myself up over, you know?

I talk to a picture of my best friend cause he's usually too busy to take a phone call.
Sometimes he's free and i confide in him.
I also confide in a few other best friends.
I tried confiding in my boyfriend but he's been in one of those "i dont give a f**k about anyone else" moods too >.<

This, for the most part, although I don't talk to my cats in an intelligent manner. I have one friend who I trust enough to confide with about anything. In relationships I've trusted my partners enough, as well, and the exes I am on good terms with, I still can confide with for many things, but not with everything.

I also use people from the internet, a lot.

I confide only in my wife; and even then, not about everything.

wrong planet forum? That's what I'd do, I think.

I'm lucky enough to have some good friends on WP, Facebook and in real life. If I can't talk to them,... my 1 cat is a great listener.

My boyfriend hears when I'm being scared of bothering interacting with other people.

People on IRC who only know me online hear.

Cats are also good. I'll talk to my cat like she's a person if I'm stressed out enough. And then she'll mew at me and I'll mew back.

It bothers me because I know logically that they will not feel any empathy/sympathy considering the complaint...

It seems you've come to the right place. Your thread and content was eye-catching in its honesty, I think you'll be surprised at how many of us have issues having the same emotions as others in social settings, or things like not knowing how to respond when someone says their [family member] died.

You may also be surprised at how much empathy and sympathy you get for your question, simply for being open and honest, it seems WP is a good place to seek answers.

Edit: The grammar bug is killing me.....Is it more grammatically correct to say "were" eye-catching rather than "was"

Ah, so basically you'd like to be able to tell a NT "I feel frustrated that I'm unable to relate to other people empathetically" - and have them be understanding and sympathetic to your plight?

I have a few NT friends I'd like to be able to tell that to as well, and it frustrates me that they are annoyed by my limitations rather than understanding or accepting. In my case I think I'm just going to back away from those people and not try to interact with them anymore :/

Mainly my mother and hubby! And they don't get the full story either. I just can't bring myself to it. There is just too much that I feel they would look at me differently and maybe leave me if I did. If I need to vent, I usually do a private journal entry or some anonymous site, etc.

For that matter, if anyone did want to talk, vent, confide, etc to me. Feel free to PM me. I don't judge people and have my own lil secrets, so trust me in saying it can't all be that bad.

Mostly my husband and a dear sister-in-law. I also talk to MIL a little bit but not too much. My social needs are not high, so having a couple real people and a forum to talk to is enough for me.

I put it all in my blogs. I tell the Internet everything. It will probably come back to haunt me someday, but whatevs:
http://www.furaffinity.net/journals/wildeandprokofiev/
http://davidmarshall.tumblr.com/post/55 ... s-a-book-i

I also write in a journal excessively. I find it really therapeutic to record my thoughts in that then later make some sense of them, and incredibly therapeutic if I can eventually post them to the internet or show them to people.