Abuse from parents

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Hi,

Well I just want to ask if anyone else is hit or abused by their parents.

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sorry if this is in the wrong place.

Yes, I was hit/smacked/overly-whipped by my first stepdad a number of times.

I had my mouth washed out with soap ,locked in a dark bathroom,hit with belt,slapped and spanked.All this was considered acceptable when I was growing up.Our bus driver was even allowed to spank kids.
This stuff was a foster home.My adopted parent only slapped me a few times,but I remember thinking I would have preferred it over her "being mad" at me for days at a time.I just wanted it to be done with and not dragged out.I think her "angry looks" were more painful to me then any phisical punishment.It seemed like she was always mad at me for reasons I could not understand and there for not "undo".

I am punched, kicked, have things thrown at me.

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Im also verbally abused and get death threats on a daily basis.

Yes, verbal abuse was a constant thing for me a few years ago.

That takes its toll upon the mind.

yes, verball abuse is bad.

i find it hard to sleep caus i dont know if something will happen to me while im asleep and i get nghtmares. I tend to sleep more during the day when there is no one in the house.

Why dont you turn them in for the abuse?

its safer not to

She's 17 (IIRC?)... safer to grow up and get out.

They don't do anything about child abuse anyway. I told a couple police officers about mine, and they never did anything. I guess it was because he never broke any bones.

Daily. But they weren't my parents, they were my adoptive parents, and they weren't really even my adoptive parents, they were the adoptive mother and my new (within 2 years) step-dad, though the adoptive father did beat me criminally once and mostly abandoned me/kept me at arms length through all the years, though he was/is meaning always the best with what he has to work with-himself.

but yes, lots of abuse!
why?

Its a hard thing to know that children in such cases will never see the end of it unless there is intervention, and that intervention doesn't come unless someone forces that intervention to come. We need to be more political in this respect people! But who are we? A bunch of non communicators...sorry circle

I'm sorry to say this was my case as well. And here I am safe, whereas I can still hear the stories on the tv ringing in my ears of child abuse victims placed back with theire "reformed' parents and later found dead.

I would also like you to clean your visited websites when you leave the computer as your/their parents can track where you have been.

Tools.
options. (or internet options)
delete: History. Files. Cookies. Visited Webpages.

It sucks but when your parents are your abusers you are pretty well cut off from society. When I went to the school counselor-I was refered back to my parents..ect.
Do you have an autism/aspergers counselor? Could you ask her/him? Do you have a comment box at your counselors office? Could you drop an anonomous note?
"Someone is hurting me and I dont know what to do--signed someone you know and love"
ect.

20 years later I'm still figureing 'reporting' out. By the time I'm done I might actually help someone.

Precisely.

I'm really very sorry to hear that

Are there any independent charities or support groups in your part of the world, that you could talk to for help? Maybe have a search on the net for local organisations?

Yeah, my father was pretty abusive. He relied far too much on hitting instead of just explaining what he wanted from us kids. I'm grown and safe from it, but I can still vividly remember it. It makes me sad, to read about some kids having to live with it. Sad, too, that my only option was to wait it out until I was old enough to escape.

I had to think about it, but I'm going to go go for no.

Despite things that felt abusive from my end,
looking back I'm pretty certain that they were not being abusive, but doing the best they knew.

In particular, what they had learnt from THEIR families.

Yes, there was some corporal punishment, but that wasn't unusual in the early sixties.
Some shouting and authoritarianism too. Ditto.

And they could have done a lot better,
but they were two swans trying to raise an ugly duckling.
And none of the fairy tale ending, either. I didn't grow up to be a swan.
Or give them back the affection that they felt was normal.

Nope, I was never even spanked. I tried really hard not to make my mother feel bad, because she was verbally abused by my bipolar father (but he didn't often yell at us kids that way). I felt very guilty if I ever made my mother feel bad, since she got the abuse from my dad already, so there was some odd mental stuff going on but nothing physical.

I agree that for the people who are in abusive situations right now, it's better to get out when you can, than to report it (at least in the US). I have seen my abused friends endure horrible things from their own parents, and the police sided with the parents anyway, every time.