What's mature and immature about you?

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As an individual, what would you define as mature and immature about you? I know a lot of people on the spectrum are very mature in some things they do but are immature in other things they do.

The mature traits about me are:-
-I like to be considerate of other people's differences, like for example if I met someone who was walking noticeably different, I would assume they have something wrong with part of their body, rather than being nasty and calling them a ''spastic''
-I try to be responsible for my money
-I have self-control when out in public
-I try not to be so naive, like I don't go around having sex with men I don't fancy just for the sake of knowing I'm not a virgin any more, I dislike being a virgin but I still want to wait for the right man to come along before I start having sex
-apparently I am on older people's wavelength, but I'm not on the wavelength of teenagers and ignorant young people (especially girls)
-I do not show off stupidly in the street if I am with friends of my age (even when I was a teenager)

The immature traits about me are:-
-I sulk at a lot of things
-I want to have the attention of my parents all to myself and wish my brother didn't exist (actually this is the first time in my life I have felt like this, so it may not be a mature or immature thing, but just something related to anxiety/depression/stress/isolation)
-I scream, slam doors and stamp my feet when I have a meltdown (meltdown over something stupid)
-I like my mum to come with me to a lot of appointments (yes, I get criticised about this big time, not by my mum but by other people)
-I can muck around if I want (I suppose we all can though)
-I find playing with teddies fun (although I don't do that on my own but I don't have any small children to play with teddies with any more)

What's mature/immature about you?

Mature:
Old fashioned views about child-rearing, manners and morals

Immature:
I also stamp my foot, when my youngest's meltdowns overload me (is it immature or just an acceptable tension release?)
I have toilet humour (but only with people I know very well)
I feel like running away when things overwhelm me

Look how unbalanced my lists are...maybe there are more mature things but I just can't think of them.

You know what I can be both mature and immature about different things. there is just no perfect maturity or immaturity about me all the time.

Mature:
Good with finances, very sensible with purchases and investments
Never do anything that would cause anyone hardship - no loud music, no littering, tidy garden, just general public obedience
Ensure that my daughter's needs are met, trying to be the best Mum I can
Respectful of all people
Respectful of myself, taking care of my health and personal safety

Immature:
Prone to adult tantrums
Allow things that need to be done to not get done
When I choose to go to events, I seem to be about the oldest person there, i.e. I frequently mix with younger generation

I am mature in most ways..but sometimes act like a kid in others, sometimes if things don't go my way i go into a mood and take it out on others around..only to feel guilty about it later.
I am very polite to people and get on better with more mature people, i am sensitive to others feelings and mature in most ways but must admit to acting like a big baby sometimes

... Nothing either way.

People use accusations of immaturity as a pejorative so often that I'm unconvinced there is any consistent meaning behind them.
At some level I wanted to answer this question... really.... but anything that might seem "mature" can be immature in a different context and vice versa.

Perhaps at best "mature" could only mean "better at lying to yourself".


Simple answer: I have no idea.

I suppose my hair coming out is a sign of maturity and my still having enough of it that it'll continue coming out for some while yet is a sign of immaturity.

Mature: I pay my share of the mortgage, maintain the house and tend the yard.
I don't stay out late.
I wait until everyone is gone to play the drums.
I don't engage in locker-room conversations at the shop.
I go to church regularly and volunteer, and don't display any large 'NOTW' stickers (see below)
I take my medication somewhat regularly.
I don't let my birds starve.

Immature: I eat way too much 'kid food' - TV dinners, pizza bites, chicken nuggets, red hot burritos et al.
I have 3 dedicated areas of the house and not 1 is adequately organized.
I cuss at stoplights, oblivious drivers and willful pedestrians.
I focus too much on the projects that don't seem so much as 'work' to me.
I seethe at any upset of routine unless I'm the one to change it.
I google 'nonconfrontational revenge' as soon as my ears detect heavy car stereo bass or attempt to fire aspirin tablets at the malicious car with my wrist-rocket. (opposite of a drive-by shooting?)
I give the 'pinky salute' to ostentatious motorists who are obviously 'compensating' and furthermore pulling a predictable NT move.
I unstrap my guitar or bass and walk out of the room if I don't like the song the other musicians are playing or if they play a good one more than once.

There're those, and the adventures in sensory hell, known as shopping. Essentially it all boils down to sulking and somewhat antisocial tendencies

I'm just purely immature.