autism and "you're scaring the dog"

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thats what my sister keeps saying to me about her dog, jack. who she says is known as a sheep dog he is black and white coloured and he loves to eat everything although he is alergic to everything. he also loves attention, like if you start hugging infront of him he will climb imbetween. he also likes to climb over pepole and lick them alot.

right. basicly my sister dosnt realy understand that im autistic "because i never used to act that way" when its realy "never used to notice i acted that way" .

because im more moderate suvere autistic, i have alot of SIB (self injury behaviour.) even more when in meltdown.
and i got upset thinking i made my mum angry .
so i went to the coner in the kitchen (which is where i go when im scared, worried, angry etc.. cos it feels safe there) . my mum came in and i was metldown so my sister came and said usual "dont do that! you scaring the dog! your scaring jack! ) which made me meldown more.

everytime im with my older sister she says that, whenever im up the street with her, or alone with her. she will say "dont do that when jack comes or you will scare him" "you cant do that when i bring jack down" "i wont bring jack if you do that" "do that i wont let you see jack" .
mum says its my sisters way of getting me to stop SIB.

because im more moderate/suvere autistic SIB (self injury behaviour) is done more. which means i either slap myself or punch myself.


im not sure what to do, ivet tried geting my mum to say to get my older sister to stop saying that because it dosnt help at all and just makes me sad. when i was done metldon i could hear mysister doing lovey vocies to the dog (which is somthing she does alot)

i realy love jack hes a cute dog, hes never appeared scared as much as my sister makes it sound.

Wow sounds like they should get off your back some, and if the dog was scared of you he would avoid you.......and in my experience dogs seem more concerned if someone seems upset than scared. But I don't know the full situation. I know I would get pretty frustrated if people got all over me about melting down or something and it would probably make it worse.

Lol, what if people attack you physically because of your meltdowns, like they can't stand it your acting that weird and they just want to smack the s**t out of you because they think you're a weird attention seeker.

It's absurd enough that your mom and your sister are acting this way, so how scary would it be if my theory above would actually happen to autistic people having meltdowns?

People should be helping you and preventing that you have public meltdowns, they should realize it's because of THEM that your meltdowns occur.

Where's society's support when you need it?

I scare the cat when I'm having an outburst. Actually, she doesn't like it when people's voices are raised, and when I'm feeling really frustrated, I will raise my voice into a high pitch, because talking in a low, calm pitch doesn't feel like I'm expressing my opinion or emotion so effectively. (Don't most people raise their voice when angry anyway???! !!) But at the time I don't care that I'm scaring the cat. She gets up and runs behind the sofa, or runs out the nearest open door, but when I'm frustrated, nothing else matters at the time, only my problem and how it's going to be solved.

That's the kind of BS I have always hated. Telling me I am upsetting our dog or that I scared a small child as if I chose to feel the way I did.
That is like telling a schizophrenic during one of their episodes that they are scaring people as if they are choosing to hallucinate and act the way they are acting or telling someone who is having a seizure they are scaring people as if they chose to have one right in the restaurant so they can stop it if they wanted to.

A true dog who is scared will back away. I somehow have this threatening look about me when it comes to small dogs. Chihuahua are basically scared s**tless whenever they see me. Literally I had my friend's Chihuahua [Twinkie] come over to our house and I tried to get Twinkie to sniff me before petting her and instead of smelling me she backs away and puts her ears back and hides in my friend's arm. But when my younger brother went to touch Twinkie she licked him, sniffed him, and allowed him to pet him. And I have similiar situations in the animal shelter with small dogs before, all the little yappers are just afraid of me. Now the bigs dogs have the opposite effect, I hate big dogs they scare me due to childhood experiences. So I prefer small dogs, but small dogs fear me.

Does Jack come to you on his own accord? If so they are just making excuses.

Maybe Jack is an excuse and it isn't Jack who is scared, but your sister.

Hi nintendofan,

Your sister is worried that the dog is going to react to your movements.
She is worried that the dog might jump up or bite you.
If the dog bites you, you may be hurt and the dog may have to be put down.

That breed can be unpredictable.

Jason.

Just stay the hell away from your sister. She's a b***h.

"You're scaring the dog" is a way of saying, "You make me uncomfortable and I don't want you around" without having to own that emotion.

So, she's not only a b***h. She's also a f*****g coward who would rather pawn her emotions off on an innocent canine and confuse the s**t out of her own flesh and blood than tell the truth. Because then she might not look so good.

In her own eyes, or anyone else's. But this way, she's a good dog-mommy and you're an evil nasty crazy person.

I HOPE ALL f*****g NT SCUM-FUCKERS BURN FOR EVER AND EVER AND EVER IN THE DARKEST PITS OF HELL.

Seek help wherever you can possibly find it. Nobody deserves to be treated poorly. I hope the best for you and that everything goes fine.