Jealous?

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I have no idea whether this is caused by AS or if this is just a personal flaw of mine.

I get jealous. Very easily. Like, if a friend finishes a hard nonogram before I do. If someone gets a solo instead of me. And ESPECIALLY if someone gets more recognition for their artwork.

My Dad thinks the same exact way with the things he's good at. He also has AS. But, again, it could just be genetics.

What do you think?

I get jealous a lot. I get jealous of practically everybody around me, especially my cousins. Everything they do, I get really jealous of, even if it's nothing to be jealous about.

But I think, with me, it comes from self-hatred and/or depression. I hate myself so much that I want to be somebody else, so I find myself getting jealous of them all the time.

I usually get jealous easily but only for certain things.

I'm really jealous of my cousins too. I feel like I'm the most socially screwed up and ugliest cousin out of all of them.

Sounds like we have something in common.

I think I ought to no better than to feel jealousy, yet still I feel it. I'm the pianist at my church, so in practice I get a solo on every single hymn/song/choir anthem. I write handbell duets and can pretty much bring out the bells any time my partner and I get something worked up. But the minute I try to get something going with the band, there's no time for it. It used to be that I'd get jealous because I didn't get featured somehow, but I don't care about that anymore. There are other talented musicians in our church, and it's frustrating for my to try to work them in only to be told that we can't and one of the same two or three choir members gets a solo on a choir number. The children's choir will be have the entire service this Sunday, so out of desperation they asked me to play something during an empty time slot. Ugh...

I don't get jealous but I have trouble with people who are jealous of me.

I tend to see something I want and go get it. I'm smart and can figure things out. No need for jealousy.

When you're jealous of another, you're kinda blaming them for having something you don't. Your shortcomings are not their fault. You have what you have. Learn to be happy with that and make it work for you.

That's what I feel like. I feel that they are all getting on, and some are younger than me but are already working, and there's me still on jobseekers and can't get a job because of my AS causing too many barriers. I can't have retail because of my poor customer service skills, no matter how much experience in retail I've gained, it just never seems to be enough. I can't have a job in admin because I got to have a certain grade in maths and english and also good communcation skills on the telephone. There are just so many barriers. It's all right for all 14 of my cousins because they're all neurotypical and are not perfect but at least they would have better luck finding for jobs than I ever will.

Makes me feel so miserable. What's the point of being a human if your social skills are poor? It's like being a bee that can't make honey but yet is forced to make honey at the same time.

Not really, unless I haven't eaten anything in awhile, then my emotions are a little bit off.

I rarely get jealous.

I've been jealous of my cousins ever since I was about 12. I think it stems back to when I was in my early teens and all my cousins who were around the same age were all going out and about with friends and I wasn't, and they didn't really want to spend much time with me anyway, and I didn't want to tag along with their friends because I just wanted friends of my own. My cousins used to criticise me that I weren't going out and about with friends, and I just felt so lonely and upset.

Now I try not to care too much. I still get jealous of my cousins, but now I'm older and I've found friends of my own to go out and about with, I can try to block what my cousins are doing from my mind. I find I'm much happier when I'm with my friends, then suddenly go depressed when I speak to my cousins.

It's funny - I never get jealous of my friends. Only my cousins. I don't know why, it's just another unexplainable emotion I have got.

Take it as an attempt at comforting. A lot of people on the spectrum are underemployed or miss a family life. That doesn't mean that they have to be jealous at other, possibly successful people. Keep in mind that some of them are good at putting up a facade, I've seen nasty things behind it. You are young, and you still have a lot of opportunity in your life to come, just as a lot of things to learn.

Jealousy is my greatest vice. My covetousness for the skills and beauties of others overshadows all of my other sins by far. I simply cannot stand that some are intrinsically better than others, and worse still better than me, without even putting forth any effort. Some even squander the talents that were granted to them, for example: I know one person who parties lavishly, frequently abuses elicit substances and alcohol, hardly ever sleeps, and yet this person is not only physically attractive, but also light years ahead of me in intelligence. Just the frustration from this perceived injustice is certainly the grandest test of my faith as a Christian. Stranger still, I am a guy, and jealousy is by convention associated with women. When overcome with jealousy, I must remind myself of possibly the wisest phrase ever to grace my ears, "Life sucks, get over it."

Because they belong to your family. Similar breed implies similar expectations, consciously or unconsciously.

Jealousy = Perceived greatness (an opiate for depression and anxiety) is falling apart?

Interesting theory, but the jealous such as I and many others posting on this thread would never agree to any such a rationalization as "perceived greatness." For a jealous person to agree to being called vain, would be a mad man agreeing to be called insane.

I never get jealous. Maybe it's because I see the whole picture. For example, one of my peers may have a nicer house, car, clothes and hair, but she works to afford these things, so she sees less of her kids. That's just one example, but that's the way it iswith everything, for me.