Wanting To Be Alone

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This is a very important thing in my life, but also very situational.

Most of the time I just want to be left alone on the computer. I make my own food and eat by myself. Whenever my family calls me to do something I either get annoyed, angry, or just really upset in general. I also don't like watching movies with my family. If I pick out a movie to watch, I don't want ANYONE around me. I get this weird embarrassed-like feeling.

But, being called by friends I'm okay with. And I'll be around my family if I'm at the lowest point of a depression pit.

What about you guys?

Yes, yes, yes, and yes.. except for the embarrassed part and I try not to let anything get me upset. I just need to recharge alone.
Too much drama, forced communication, and especially any kind of argument leaves me drained and I just need to recharge - alone. My wife tries to understand but I can tell she doesn't really accept it; she tolerates it though...mostly.

I am the same way about things I am interested in while I am doing them. Fortunately, I now live alone. Unfortunately, I have had a few accidents on the way to the bathroom because I was engrossed in what I was doing online. This indicates at least some level of obsession to me. Ya think:?: I will also postpone meals for way too long when so engrossed. Occasionally, though I will head into my inbox, and check my family emails. My relatives sometimes send me links to videos that take a very long time to down load with my dial-up connection. So I will sometimes start one of these down loading, and then go use the facilities, or eat, or both. Occasionally, I will bring food in here to eat by the PC, but I don't really like to do that. I don't want to mess up the place, and I prefer to eat at the kitchen table.

As for not wanting anything much to do with other people, well I am a hermit type, and have told relatives that umptillion times already, so what do they expect? I do try to be civil with people when I have to have dealings with them, but I don't know what else to suggest you do. If I did I would be able to do it, too.

You sound just like me.
Especially the movie part. For some reason I don't like other people to accompany me in watching shows and movies that interest me. I get embarrassed. I don't know why.

I also can relate to what jedaustin said, I need a lot of alone time. For every day of intense forced socialization I need at least one day alone. Or one day where I can just have minimal human contact/conversation.

Alone is my default setting: I naturally gravitate towards it unless otherwise prompted.

Oh my gosh...after all these years I had wondered why I this would happen to me; I used to think it was 'normal' for one to socially withdraw into one's own space and that everyone else would react in this way when other inhibit one's alone time, but now I know it's not.
It's quite comforting though to know that I'm not the only one that does this, and that there are now others that I can relate my experiences to.

I do like to be alone, though I can stand being with others so long as I'm not the center of attention. My brother and sister have been good at stealing the spotlight away from me.

I love being alone, but I also love being in the presence of others without the pressure of interacting, but with each person doing own thing. iMother and I like to sit on her bed, eat food, and she watches movies on her iPad, and I browse WP and play Bejeweled on my iPad.

There are times when I like to be left alone. I feel I need that time with myself. On those rare occasions when I do get a day to myself, I usually enjoy the time as it offers me a carefree and unobstructed day to do what I want. Now, I love my family, and I love being around them. But, I do need that alone time every once in awhile.

In 2004 I purchased an Airstream camper, partially for the purpose of having an alone space when I needed it. I can even sleep in it if I want to. Strangely, I have never slept in my Airstream---and I have had it 8 years.

Yeah, I want to be alone for most of the day. I'm lucky in that my mother doesn't desire much social interaction from me.

I like to be in my room reading, drawing, collecting facts and playing the odd game for all of "my" time that's not "work".

I strongly agree with all of the above. Being alone is a necessity.

I SERIOUSLY thought I was alone on this one!

I don't mind other people watching tv shows and movies with me but sometimes I do get embarrassed like that.

I love movies and can easily watch the same one, many times, I do like pretty much anything from really cheesy disaster movies and spoofs through to non-English language world cinema. What bugs me the most is when people complain about the movie while it's on, or having to compromise.

Oh and it's pretty normal not to get on with your family at 17

Jason

I'm quite the same way. I prefer to watch movies and television alone. I hate it when my mom looks at me when I'm doing something. It can be anything from tying my shoes, eating, helping out a child or interacting with a child. Doing anything that I'm supposed to do or doing a good job on something. I hate it when people look at me besides my friends. It's frustrates me because I'm wondering what they're thinking. It's hard to explain and when it comes to my mom I'm always thinking of it more as she's thinking emotional thoughts about me and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't know how to put it into words, it's weird.

No, I have that as well but it depends on the people I'm watching it with and the kind of show or movie I'm watching. When I'm watching tv I always have to be behind everybody else so I know nobody's looking at me. I get embarrassed when I watch sex scenes or certain emotional scenes in front of my family and certain people. Also, if I'm sitting on a couch, I have to be on one of the ends and preferably the one that's farthest away from the tv so nobody sees me.