Do you always identify a problem in everything?

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Whenever my family plans something, whether it's a big plan like a family outing or a small plan like a usual mundane thing, I always manage to find a big issue with it, instead of just happily going along with it and just thinking ''ooh, that'd be nice, I'll go and get ready.''

For example, last week-end my uncle invited me, my mum and my aunt round his to watch a film in the evening and have chips from the fish and chip shop. It sounds really nice, doesn't it? And I did want to go because it did sound nice to me too, but then I started whining about something what nobody else even thought of. I was whining about my uncle's dog because the dog never settles down and when there's a human or an animal pacing around, I get agitated (especially with dogs, because usually when they hear a noise outside, they start barking, which is why I don't like being shut in the same room as one). I still went, and luckily my uncle put the dog in the kitchen.

Another example is, when we all planned to go on a family outing to London, I started worrying about the trains being delayed. My cousins were like, ''so?'', and when my mum said, ''I hope not'', that made me worse. Then before we got on the train, I got upset because there was an odd number of us and I was fussing about who will sit on their own because I didn't want to be the one sitting on my own. Then when we got to London, I started complaining/worrying about something else, then something else, then something else, until my mum said, ''there is always a problem, isn't there?! Why can't you just chill out a little bit?'' And I actually realised she was right.

Anyone else similar?

I see potential problems and attempt to be prepared for every possible contingency. I do not generally voice my concerns unless I have already figured out a solution. Then I will present both the possible problem and the solution if the problem should occur, or the preventative to keep the possibility from ever occurring.

This can drive my mother crazy as most of the potential problems do not ever happen, but if the problem does happen she is very glad that I have plans and solutions in place. My dad does not mind too much as he is an engineer and sees what I do to be trouble shooting.

Although the frustration can be when my concerns are different from other people's concerns. I design trips that avoid railroad tracks because I cannot stand the noise from the whistle, I add in extra time so as to not arrive late if there is car trouble or if traffic is bad. I carry gum, silly putty, stress balls, ear plugs, and sunglasses everywhere if I need them.

My mom panics if there is a flat tire, where I just change it. My mom worries if clothes are ok for a situation, and I do not care.