Are they giving up on me?

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I go to a school for people with autism and Im in my first year of high school. I have aspergers and add and a whole bunch of other learning problems that they havnt told me about because they dont want me to feel down on myself. They say its like 100 Im pretty sure thats streching the truth though. I know I have alot of things wrong with me in my brain but I dont think its 100. My mom and this new therapist guy dont think I will be able to graduate high school. They are thinking of putting me on a life classes plan so I can learn to cook for myself and different things like that. Because I probably wont go to collage so they think I probably have no piont in doing all these high school classes that wont matter or help me out in life ever. My mom cares about me alot but I dont know if shes giving up on the idea that I could do it thus giving up on me or if maybe I really cant do it. I am so behind in my school work and I always have been. My whole life I have always been behind in every thing I do. Could it be that Im just slow?

your writing is grammatical and clear. i don't think you have any verbal learning disabilities. if it were me, i'd insist on knowing all about myself.

do you want to finish regular high school or does the life skills track sound good? i think you should have some input in this decision?

Don't feel so bad. Most of us have been there at one time or another. Einstein was a slow learner, too. Who are "they" and how do you know that they are aware of problems they are keeping from you? Are you receiving treatment for at least some of them? Don't give up on yourself. I bet there's something you can do that your peers can't. You just need to find your talent and learn to develop it.

Don't feel too bad! When I was younger they tried to say I had all sorts of disorders. Once I was professionally diagnosed with AS, they concluded that that was the sole disorder that I had. They didn't know I had autism, so they would come up with all sorts of disorders to theorize about. Of course, I went to a public elementary school so their credibility may have been a bit faulty! As posted by cathylynn, your grammar seems fine, so the disorders can't be that severe. I personally go to college with people who can't do what you did!

Explain to your mom and to your therapist that, by keeping the truth from you, they only make you feel even more down than you would, if you knew the truth. I think you are at an age when you really need to know the whole truth about yourself, in order to build a proper self-image and self-esteem.

And please do tell your mother how you feel, how her actions make you feel. Tell her that you feel that she's giving up on you. Your mother probably wants the best for you and she's definitely not aware that you feel as if she's giving up on you, so you'd be better off letting her know about it. If you really want to go on with highschool, then talk to her about it too.

I don't think that 100 learning disorders even exist. So this must be an NT metaphorical figure of speech, probably meaning that you have a lot of learning disorders. You clearly don't have that many. Besides that, as people have already pointed out, your spelling and grammar are very correct.

It's great that you can train dogs. Maybe there are any options in your area to work with dogs after you finish school?

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Probably 75% Aspie, 25% NT... and 100% ADHD

Aspie-quiz results:
Aspie score: 138 of 200 / NT score: 78 of 200 => Very likely an Aspie.

Yeah. You're growing up. You're in high school. You need to start learning to make your own decisions; and if you want to learn regular high-school classes instead of life-skills classes, then that should be an option for you.

What are your grades like right now?

Do you have the skills they are teaching in the life skills curriculum? If not, you could ask to learn them without dropping the regular high school classes. They are right about one thing: You'll need those skills when you live on your own, so you'll need to learn them somewhere. But to learn them at the expense of going on with your regular education? No. If you are at all interested in regular schooling, then you should go on with it.

I think it'll be up to you to take control of your education here. You need to know what you are capable of. Don't let them tell you that you can't do something--maybe it takes you longer, but you don't need to graduate at 18 if you're not ready. It's scary, I know, but it's a skill you'll need as an adult--the ability to say, "Hey, this is MY life, and I want to do this and this with it," and to make people listen. You may be disabled, but that does not mean that you have to be a "good girl" and do what people say you can do. You can rebel against that, go for your own goals.

My opinion is you seem to be very verbal and can speak for yourself.
Two things in life you are going to have to learn is how to fend for yourself - because your parents are not always going to be there for you and you are not going to want to live at home the rest of your life.
And how to learn and work.
You need to start finding a job.
Maybe cutting the neighbors grass or walking dogs or something / anything to prove to these people that you can fend for yourself and that you can provide for yourself.
Sitting on the couch doing nothing except playing video games and watching television and not picking up after yourself of helping others is one sure way to get placed in a box like that.

Keep going to regular school as long as you can and put your nose to the grindstone and learn things and apply yourself and try to show them that they are wrong and that you can make something out of yourself.

Maybe what they are saying is that you are LAZY and that you do not want to WORK and that it might be best for you to learn NOW how to take care of yourself and not wait until school is out and there is no one to teach you.

MAYBE it is even your parents fault - because they are too stupid to teach you these things because they can barely do them - themselves.

NOT everything has to be YOUR FAULT!

Kaelynn, you write very well. Do you always explain things so well when you're talking? If not, try typing your parents a letter. It might help them understand how you feel.

Your parents may feel that high school is too hard for you. Maybe they're trying to protect you. I don't know. But high school is much more important than college. If you don't finish high school, it may be hard to get a job when you grow up.

If you want to stay there, think about why. Make a list of reasons. Then tell your parents. Or show them the list.

Maybe they'll change their mind, maybe not. But at least they will understand how you feel.

If it comes down to it, you could take GRE classes when you're 18. Then you'll be an adult and your parents can't stop you from going to school if you want to. But, that would be a last resort. It's better to have your parents on your side.