best books for learning social skills?

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After working in the same office for almost 10 years, I'm again looking for a job, which will mean getting used to a whole new group of people, and them getting used to me. Once people get to know me, they usually like me, in spite of my quirks. Improving my social skills could only help smooth things over and make the situation easier for everyone.

What books would you recommend for an older Aspie looking to improve social skills in the work place and near-work socializing? (to make the grade of "friend" one must accept me just as I am

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Aspie score: 142/200 NT score: 64/200
AQ Score: 42
BAP: 109 aloof, 94 rigid and 85 pragmatic

There's this Autism self-help book that I'm reading called "Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships" by Temple Grandin and Sean Barron. It explains all the dos and don'ts of social interaction and relationships, rules that I wish had learned when I was little. It's a very helpful book and I think you should order it online.

Also, check out this website called: http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com. It explains how Aspies and Auties can understand body language, make and retain friends, and practice group conversations, empathy and dating.

From the top of my head, titles may deviate from the words, words may deviate from the spelling, I use but a search should provide the actual book:
Feild guide to (understanding) earthlings
Joe Nevaro's books on body language
Crucial/critical conversations/confrontations (aimed for difficult conversations but I found useful for more basic communication)

A Field Guide to Earthlings: An autistic/Asperger view of neurotypical behavior
by Ian Ford