Is there a way to avoid being treated poorly?

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Anyone know of any sort of skill set or personality type that doesn't tolerate mistreatment/has enough confidence to realize being treated poorly and take steps to correct the mistreatment?

The only thing I know of is learning to speak up and defend yourself. I learned it years and years ago and don't put up with being treated like crap anymore.

It's scary at first but once you do it a few times and see the results, you will never go back to being a door mat again.

There will always be people who will treat you poorly no matter what your personality is. Some people (a lot, actually) just enjoy being jerks and if they find something you about they think is different, they will try to make your life miserable. That's just the way it is, doesn't take a psychological genius to see it.

Learning better social skills

Learning to be tough and not care what people say to you or how they treat you

Isolating yourself from people and not post online

So essentially:
-Somehow not care when people mistreat you(which for many people is near impossible).
-Isolate yourself from all social interaction
-And just appear to function normally so people don't think you're a freak.


I just can't wait to go out there and interact with more people

Yeah. Find a rich man/woman and be a lady/gigolo.

Or:

Start your own business and travel a lot

IMPORTANT is to make many moneys and become independent, then get the hell out.
People are SCARY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A6aCir5bu-c

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Try to find a way to prevent most people from thinking that it's OK - i.e. that they might get away with it - to mistreat you in the first place.

How would them being able to get away with it make it ok?

No, you misunderstand me (or I phrased it poorly) - you need to make people think that there will be consequences - or social disapproval - for treating you badly. Even if it's just seen by other people present. If people think they would get away with debasing you, some people will. Simple as that.

Nice avatar, by the way. I know it's worth less than my last bowel movement, but you've gone up in my estimation since you get rid of that mopey avatar. You look determined instead. Good work.

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And how does one make people think there will be consequences or social disapproval for doing that?

kindness begets kindness I found, its too depressing and takes too much energy to be negative
This is one test you want to test + for. When i was younger, I was all about the -.

Removing comments on multiple threads tonight because I don't want to discuss philosophy as it is difficult for me to convey my beliefs in a way I want others to see them.

Or just be yourself, and don't give a f**k what people think of you.

Yes I am not sure how to do that. Oh crap I mostly meant the second part.....I do know how to be myself. in fact its hard for me not to be.

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