Noises outside your bedroom door

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Does this drive you crazy???! !! It's so distracting when people are standing right outside my bedroom door having a conversation (when I'm in the bedroom), or, even worse, when I can hear faint noises. I find the fainter the noise, the more distracting it is, because it comes and goes and just makes me want to scream, ''piss off!! !'', but I know I can't because other people live here too. Makes me wish my room wasn't downstairs, but it's the biggest bedroom in the house and I need a big room for all my clutter (and I like space too).

Right now I can hear my brother talking (God knows who to, one of his mates must've come round), and all I can faintly hear is his voice very faintly from the kitchen but it's still so horribly distracting. Right now I'm trying to read something to do with one of my interests on the internet and I think I must have read the same sentence about 10 times and still haven't took it in because my mind seems to be focused on my brother's distant talking.

I can't read properly with music on, and I could put my earplugs in but I've got an ear infection at the moment so earplugs make it feel worse obviously, and anyway, I then miss out on the sounds I do like to hear whilst on the internet, like birds singing, the clock ticking, and the cars going by (seems to relax me when I'm indoors).

Anyone else get annoyed with sounds outside your bedroom door, like shuffling, banging, talking, etc?

Get some over-the-ear hearing protection and then you can enjoy some quiet without aggravating your ear infection. I have sensitive hearing also, and ear infections always seem to make it worse! As for my bedroom, I like it quiet and pitch black dark. Any light or noise can be a real problem, and I'm afraid if I wear ear plugs to bed, I won't hear the alarm in the morning.

It really annoys me when people are talking or walking about outside my bedroom. I can't relax because it feels like they might just barge in at any minute.

I hear my neighbors talking and laughing, their tv is too loud, it drives me crazy. Sometimes i hear them f*****g and having orgasm, so how cool is that

This use to drive me crazy! I hate people talking when I am trying to sleep! I need both quiet & darkness..
When I was a kid, the monster under the bed kept me up..
Until I found out those were my guts making all that infernal noise!

Sincerely,
Matthew

I used to get annoyed with outside sounds and interruptions, etc when I was your age. Kids playing outside where I could hear them would infuriate me in my 20s. Once I had kids, I learned to tune out the excess noise and keep an ear out for the important noise.

Now that I have teenagers, and my house is teen central, because my kids are popular and there are always at least 3 or 4 friends of different kids at my house at various times, sometimes much more than that and sometimes they spend the night, I've learned to just tune it all out. Learning to do that was a defense mechanism because it was to do that or go insance.

I know that doesn't help you now, but please know that as you get older it does get easier.

Does white noise help at all? I know that if I turn my fan on 2 and shut my door, it shuts out a good bit of sound and I can read in peace. I also have the kids keep their bedroom doors shut because they are RIGHT ACROSS THE HALL FROM ME, and that's where the xbox is, so its boy central in there, and teenage boys do not have the ability to keep their voices down. I sometimes have to yell "SETTLE DOWN you're TOO LOUD!" and they yell "OK! SORRY" and they do get somewhat quieter. When I'm sleeping though, they know that if they wake me up, it's gonna be hell to pay. I'll come in there, snatch the door open and yell at them and tell them that if they get loud "ONE MORE G**D**N TIME you're ALL OUT! YOU AINT GOTTA GO HOME BUT YOU CANT STAY HERE, THE XBOX GOES IN MY ROOM, YOUR TV GOES OFF AND YOU EITHER GO TO SLEEP OR LEARN TO READ!" and slam my door back. That works well. Unfortunately it would not work for a sister. That's something a parent has to do to be effective. And they have to know you mean it.

I'd suggest a fan, or possible some kind of music or nature sounds you can download at Frostwire.com (like Limewire and Napster, I use it) or if you have tabbed browsing you can find something on YouTube to play in the background while looking at other stuff online. If you like soft music, I'd reccommend one of my favorites, Loreena McKinnett.

You can also find thunderstorms, rain, ocean, jungle, forest, river, meadow (birds), etc if those kinds of things might help drown out the sounds. I find that instead of just drowning them out, and when I want to do that I'll crank Van Halen or Judas Priest and they get the message fast, if I can find something softer and soothing that will sort of "confuse" the sounds, mask them if you will. You'll still hear them but they aren't clear and they make no sense and don't seem as loud. They are also covered some by what you are playing so they aren't stopping and starting which can be real annoying.

Good luck!

Oh, Joe, I also heard something on the tv at my Mama's house yesterday that I want to post for you to read. It's some ideas about dealing with social anxiety when you are out and about. He didn't mention AS but he said social anxiety and also some people who are more sensitive than others. So, in a few minutes I'll post it for you under Social Skills I suppose (social anxiety) and I'll put in the subject like "Something for Joe". I want to post it because I think it might help others, so that's why I'm not just gonna PM it to you.

Hope those ideas help.

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Oh yes, I feel unsafe and insecure and uncomfortable and anxious and alert alert alert when there are noises outside my bedroom door, even if it is only iMother rummaging through the cabinets right outside.

Yes, this used to drive me crazy too It wasn't so bad when I lived with my parents, but it drove me crazy at work. I had my own office at both of my last jobs, and whenever I was in a zone and totally focused on my work, somebody barged in. Either that or the phone rang, which was just as bad.

What disturbed me most was when someone opened my office door and then got into a conversation with another coworker who happened to walk by Occasionally they would come in, stand behind my chair and chat away while looking over my shoulder at my monitor, happy to get away from their desk or escape the noise of the printing hall downstairs for a while. I couldn't stand it when someone was watching me work I always wanted to yell "whatever you want from me, please tell me and get out of here! If you want to have a chat or a meeting that doesn't involve me, take it somewhere else!"

Back then, I lived in an apartment building with office facilities. Right next to my apartment was an insurance office, and when I took a week or two off work, I heard people walk past my door all day long. Mainly one of the women who worked there. Her high heels sounded like gun fire when she stomped through the hallway, and she always slammed the door so loud that I felt my dental fillings vibrate. I have no idea why she had to stomp outside every twenty minutes. Perhaps to have a smoke. In any case, every noise she made sounded aggressive and violent, and I never managed to sleep in or relax during the day for as long as I lived there. Together with the stress and bullying at work, this greatly contributed to my social anxiety.

Now that I'm no longer able to work and have moved into a duplex house in a more rural neighborhood, I no longer have noise problems. Aside from neighbors mowing the lawn or having barbecues, it is surprisingly quiet around here. If anything, it's the neighbors who are disturbed by my loud cursing and ranting when I have the occasional meltdown But nobody has complained as of yet, so I guess it's not much of an issue for them. Too bad that it took a nervous breakdown, severe social anxiety and an early retirement for me to get some quiet and peace.

Wow, I thought I was the only one who really reacted to this. Its a BIG problem when I'm trying to sleep, it makes me so mad.

I'm not overly bothered by it. That said, having a TV going in another room, or someone having a conversation can pose a problem when I'm trying to sleep, because instead of falling asleep, I'll end up listening to the talking instead.

I find that I often can't listen to music before I go to sleep because then I'll want to play the same song over and over and over and over, but that's another issue. To me, the biggest impediment to me falling asleep is not having enough weight on my body. I'll sometimes have to bury myself beneath four blankets, wear a sweatshirt, and have a beanie cap on in order to fall asleep.

im not so fused about it mostly. my house mates are usually upstairs or not at home. my bedroom is right next to the entrance though so every morning i hear doors slamming and it echoes through my head really painfully. other than that and the really needy cat who comes begging for affection every night and the fire trucks which excite me, its all good. my next door neighbours are pretty loud though. they cant sing.