Inherited traits or in my mind?

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Hi all!

I'm new to this site and wanted to share my story and gain some advice if possible.

Im 27 and last year I met my real father for the first time, it became obvious that he has either aspergers or autism due to many things he said/did, long story and won't bore you with that. My half brother, his son, also has learning difficulties.

My 7 year old son has recently been diagnoised with ADHD and as a toddler showed asd traits.

I came across the AQ test this evening i got a score of 30, so above average.

I researched this further (and found this site) and found a list of common aspergers traits, i read them to my hubby (didnt tell them what it was for) and he said i had all those traits.

All my life i have felt "different". I would say my main "trait" would be that I. HAVE. TO. HAVE. A. PLAN. FOR. EVERYTHING! to the extenct that it drives my hubby mad, he doesnt understand that i have to have one, he thinks that i can control it but i really cant. I completly freak out if my plan changes dramictally. I also hate making friends, hate talking to people i don't know or phoning companies etc. I come across as rude but truth is i just hate talking to people

Do you think I have inherited "traits" from my father and then passed adhd onto my son?? Am I too old to get a DX? How do I go about getting a DX?

Thank you for reading my epic post and look forward to all advice

Seeing as Autism is a genetic condition, it seems highly likely that traits passed from your father, to you, to your son.

Yep. My mother shows some traits, and her mother shows even stronger traits. Also, my dad's brother seemed like he had some pretty strong ASD traits...he never held a public job...only did things that he could be somewhat independent/flexible, lived out in the woods alone most of the time...never married...had seizures (not always a trait, but sometimes)...was kind of socially awkward. So, he could have been too (he died from aspiration after a Grand Mal seizure...he had it while alone in the woods in his RV, so no one could help him in time.

It's definitely a genetic condition. I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's. Afterwards I found out that my cousin on dad's side of the family has it. My father has strong traits and I'm almost certain several members of his family are undiagnosed Aspies.

In my opinion it's never too late to get a diagnosis, if you feel it would help you. For many people, including myself, it's a relief to discover there's a reason we've felt like a round peg in a square hole for much of our lives. My self-esteem has improved hugely since the diagnosis.

If you want to get a diagnosis, finding the right professional to undertake it is really important. Some people charge a fortune, yet have no idea what they're doing. You need someone who specialises in autism spectrum disorders. Maybe contact your local autism society or ask for a recommendation here. What country and city do you live in?

Thank you for all your replies.

I live in the UK so don't know if the NHS would do it?

I think a dx would help me understand myself and that theres a reason why i have always felt "different" to everyone else.

Do people with aspergers have obsessive and compulsive feelings? Im sick of getting obsessed over the smallest thing and how it can take over my life for a short whilr until i find a new thing to obsess about

I think OCD can be co-morbid with AS. I know I certainly have obsessive-compulsive traits.