-_- yeah i can't compete with TV.

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For some random reason people seem to think I can talk just fine with the television going.
I live in a caravan (trailer for those of u who are american), so the TV is next to my right ear. Laptop infront of me and family in other places of van. But when someone talks to me, no one mutes the TV, so i can reply. I then get in trouble for giving up and not replying, or talking like i have no idea what im saying.
I mean seriously whats with that... I get looked at stupidly cause i cant talk over the TV...

I mean no one seems to get this even other aspies who i know who have similar issues...

aaaah n now im so stressed i cant write propperly >.<

If you mean that you have trouble hearing a conversation with a background noise I'm the same.

I get annoyed when people talk to me in a normal voice when I'm stood next to a running tap.
I can't hear a thing.

I grew up in a trailer with 7 other family members. The random noise level with or without the TV was impressive. I spent most of my time outside and left home at a young age. It was impossible to do homework or anything. Wish I had some advice for you.

Does the sound of the TV make it difficult for you to concentrate on the conversation?

If so, I'm like that too... I try to look at the person who's talking and focus on what they're saying even then, it can be difficult.

Is there anyway you could sit at a different seat if that would make it any easier?

I was talking to my Mum on the phone yesterday and my daughter kept interrupting. That, I can deal with, just. But, then my husband stood close to me and shouted some instructions to her, in the garden, about 30 feet away. He could see I was on the phone, so I don't know why he didn't just go outside to speak to her. I told my Mum to hang on a bit, while I asked them to keep the noise down. I could hear my Mum on the other end of the phone telling my Dad that she thought she'd called at a bad time. The time was fine for me, I just can't focus with background noise going on.

Either move the laptop to a different location, or get head phones. If you are wearing headphones, and don't respond, you can tell anyone who was trying to talk to you that you didn't hear them, as you had head phones on. Or just tell them the truth. You can't hear them over the sound of the TV, and aren't a mind reader.

I can talk to people when I listen to music without words or with words I can't understand (not too loud though). It's hard to speak or listen when other people are too close and talk loudly (the same with TV). Talking is worse for me in this case.

However, I like singing (even in my workplace ) and listening to music while working or thinking about fairly easy problems (but typing while singing is much, much harder).

Try moving your laptop somewhere else, if possible. If you're not distracted by music that you fully control, use headphones. I think that not responding in headphones is more socially acceptable. I didn't respond at times in my workplace and people say that it was because I always wear my headphones.

It always seems to be too loud for me.

They keep reminding me that they are listening to me, which distracts me further.

I can't seem to communicate that I am the one who cannot concentrate.

My mind is a total blank. I have no awareness of my posture or appearance. I am baffled, but they say I'm being intense or intimidating.

I can't make conversation, or read, with a TV on. It upsets the hell out of me.

I understand your issue very well.

Many times I feel put off by the TV going and everyone on facebook - the only time anyone else is talking it's always the same banal topics regarding the latest reality show news. If I do breach the wall of NT silence they make a big production of me daring to interrupt their shows, yet they will think nothing of yakking over the rare program I find to watch. I get what OP is saying but can't transfer the thought. I may try playing my aspie card and use my 'library voice' or start replying in Garbled-ese. When did it become appropriate to talk over the TV anyway? When I was coming up that was considered bad manners

I get the same way with the TV going, especially when it's loud, and it's always loud in my house -_-. It even can interrupt my concentration when I'm in my room (which is located down a hallway right next to the living room).

Even worse, my mom talking is enough to make me unable to talk. I don't hate her or anything like that of course, but it's just her voice can be like nails on a chalkboard to me if she is talking at full volume and full speed. The speed itself isn't what gets to me, it's the loudness with all the syllables happening fast and such. I can understand a computer talking at 500 words per minute, so with a good voice speed is actually desirable to me. But with hers I need to stand in another room sometimes, or plug my ears with my fingers, to listen to her.

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TVs are evil. I talk best when (my selected) music is playing which isn't always fun for other people. I concede I often play music to keep people away but it is neccessary for me to think. Silence unnerves me. But: TV is scrambled chatter, corkscrew straight to the brain. No surprise, that is exactly what it is supposed to be, and do.