Ok, could it be PDD-NOS? Long--please have patience

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I'm a self-diagnosed Aspie, who shares most Aspie traits with others who have it, but I don't fit in a few ways. I'm NOT typical. That's not even up for discussion (in my own brain ). Signs I have that point to ASD/poss. Aspergers are:
1. Infancy: Woke to every noise, wouldn't let anyone hold me. My mother had to prop a bottle and I'd only drink chocolate milk. I drank from a bottle until age four. Yes, she let me.
2. If anyone tried to hug me, I'd scream and push them away
3. Very friendly, but so socially inappropriate that the kids teased and bullied me, and I never understood why. I was six and I thought, "I'm different. WHY am I different?" Teachers hated me. I told my first grade teacher that I had to use the bathroom, by saying, "I gotta make doody." (Swear to God, I did. I still remember the horror on her face and thinking "OOPS!" I have an incredible memory, and vividly remember things from ages ago.).
4. Academic strugles, even though I could write at two and had a strong gift for creative writing, which is never evident in my internet posts .
5. I daydreamed all the time; had a pretend world that I shared with my absolutely Aspie brother. I had dolls (I used to collect baby dolls and put them all to bed each night). I made up a world of dolls, but the world was backwards. What was good was bad. The Queen of the World thought pretty things were ugly and everyone had to humor her, etc.
6. Obsessions throughout my life. Two husbands who both said, "STOP OBSESSING." If I get my mind going on a topic, I never quit.
7. Garbage social skills. Bored with most people. No small talk skills at all and I don't see the point to it. Impatience with people, including myself. It's so tiring to socialize that, if I try, I have to veg out for a long time afterwards. I get nervous when I have to meet new people, even if it's a little kid. I'll think, "What will I say?" Then I start the verbal diarrhea and often monologue at people or say inappropriate, off-topic stuff while I'm stressing.
8. I am horrible at and don't "get" math, except math facts. I can do some abstract thinking, but am pretty literal, to the point where I'll argue like crazy if something can't be proven (like religion or the origin of autism). Doesn't make me Ms. Popularity, but I get so focused on my point that I feel I have to make it.
9. Can't recognize faces, can't find my way around the block, could never live on my own because I get fired from jobs (often for making too many mistakes). Strangely, with my huge, impressive vocabulary, I get hired easily. Often I get fired with the boss saying, "I thought you were so intelligent, but--"
10. I do have a NVLD (Verbal IQ 125/Performance IQ 85).
11. I'M SO CONFUSED!! ! The world is a confusing blur.
As you can tell, I'm not typical, but I'm not sure I'm quite an Aspie either. Could it be PDD-NOS? I've taken four online tests. One says I'm definitely an Aspie. One says I'm mildly PDD (I at the "mild" part), two say I fall a little short (but it's close).
I know none of you can diagnose, but, if you're like me, you've studied the topic of ASD until you're a mini-expert. I have a son with PDD-NOS (adopted son--not genetic link), but lots of his behavior reminds me of myself. He was more affected when younger. I had no speech delays. Oh, yes. I do stim. I like to smell my hand (never in public), bite my nails until they bleed, move my feet while trying to go to sleep (sometimes poor hub begs me to stop, and I can't sleep), and, as a child, I was a secret, intense nose-picker. Ok, here's the worst part. As a child I ate it too and liked the taste. No, I don't anymore. I also bit my toenails as a child. No, I stopped. Ok, enough, Pam. STOP IT!! !! SHUT UP, as others tell me Although I know a lot about ASD, I'm not good at applying what I know to myself, so I'm asking for other opinions. I am scheduled to be diagnosed in about nine months. Long waiting list.

You know its hard to dx an adult. Like note all the things you mentioned as a kid.
Can a present dx depend so much on facts so long ago?( not really). Yeah there is a
good chance your on the autisic spectrum. The key thing and problem is social cognition problems. If its hard to learn and to use social skills a precise dx for an adult
(and likely kid to) is pointless. My guess is no fundemental change is possible other than time seems to reduce the problems. But I'm not worried about it .

I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS in 1991 at age 11, then diagnosed with AS in 1996 at age 16.

P.S.: TM1, do you know that you have 2000 posts now?

Tim

Without getting any interventions, I never got any better. I needing serious text-book social teaching.

Women aspies

You been married twice I'm 36 and never had a girlfriend.

I guess women are more social than men anyway. So a non-ASD women would
have a quantom leap of social skills compared to an aspie male.

I was very pretty. Men really liked me, and, with being quirky, they'd call me "unique." Hadn thing to do with social skills. Men care a lot about looks. I didn't exactly shine in any of my opposite sex relationships. I got married the first time because I knew I could never live on my own and my parents had thrown me out. Good reason, huh? About as good as that marriage

I do love kids. Adopted four of my five. But they deserved a less clueless parent. Every time I go to visit my grown kids, I get very nervous about what I'll talk about to their SO's. My life has been VERY difficult--don't let the marriages fool you. And don't romanticize marriage. It's very hard for somebody on the Spectrum. Heck, even NT's have a 50% divorce rate. If I'd been diagnosed before marriage, and getting help, I probably would have chosen not to marry, and I'd have worked with k ids, rather than raised them.

Aspie94,whether the person is typical of a specific Autism label or not doesn't matter because criteria doesn't have to be matched to every single trait.
The thing about criterias is,whilst they do show a basic resemblence between all spectrumites,each person has a unique experience of ASD,some might have better social skills but worse sensory issues,some might have less or more traits than others and so on.