Do others feel the need to constantly 'correct' you?

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I'm not meaning in the literal sense where you misspeak, but in the concept that they continually look over your shoulder waiting for you to break one of their rules? My dad says it's fine to use one of his tools if I need to, just put it back when I finish. (duh!) I borrow different tools for a period of 3 days or so, returning them where I found them. Then one of my bikes drips gas on the ground, totally unrelated. This crime against humanity leads to having to ask before I use each tool, along with the other 'dos and don'ts' that get made up on the fly. It's gotten to the point that that moment I hear his mouth begin to open, I know a MD is just around the corner. And the way to prevent future ones is I 'need to learn to live with other people' (mega-duh! isn't that what I've been at this whole time?)

It's like dealing with the hypochristians, where the idea of 'extending grace' is fine for you, not them

If anybody has insight on zapping people like that with untapped aspie powers I'd love to hear it

I'm dealing with this at work and it's really frustrating. It's gotten to the point that I want to pay attention to other people so I can see if they're getting corrected for the same thing. To me it's negativity as well as pessimism... Pessimism because they don't think I'll be able to without prompting me. Negativity because there's not always enough compliments to go along with the correction.

I don't know. I would also like to hear about ways to combat this...

Oh yeah, I'm waiting for the day when I get corrected because I'm breathing.

I knnow what you mean by "'rules made in the moment". I'm afraid this is simply how it is in the NT world. I am very literal and say what I mean. However, most of the world really isn't like this. People often think I'm joking with them when I am absolutely serious. Perhaps you need to have a discussion concerning expectations with your dad.
What is a "hypochristian"? I've never seen that word.

So I had the 'talk' and got handed a sheet of this week's rules. I reminded him of my literal-mindedness. Things are ok again for the moment but I always feel like I lose somehow

@Ria that was one of the things that set me off last time; I observed an area where nobody else was required to be consistent and as you can guess, rubbed me the wrong way

...Hypochristian= they drive the behemoth with the big 'NOTW' sticker on the back window that's often parked across 4 spaces. Constantly 'concerned' about everyone else's soul but wouldn't give a bag of chips to a homeless person. Someone who make 0 effort to apply what Christ teaches in the Bible. They rather horn in on my 'don't belong in this place' action

WE seriously can't catch a break! We're like a friggen doormat that everyone walks on.

I think we have a hard time sticking for ourselves in the moment, and that's how it continues to happen. The first time we let it happen is the worst; this is when people know we're easy to control (in a sense).

I'm one to think that we're from a different planet (lol).

Your Dad is telling you to buy your own tools.

What makes me mad is nobody listens to me when I come up with an idea, but when somebody else comes up with exactly the same idea for exactly the same situation, they listen to them and take their word for it. It's as though nobody takes me seriously, even if what I suggest is a descent or relavent suggestion.
Like last week my mum wanted a new toilet to put in, and she was worrying about who can put it in and when. So I suggested a man who is a friend of ours and is a professional plumber, and she said, ''no, he probably won't want to come'', and I was like, ''but that's his job, course he'll come if you ask him.'' But she was very reluctant to take my suggestion, then about an hour later my uncle came round and she asked him what she could do about the toilet, and he suggested exactly the same thing I did, and she said, ''that's a good idea'', and phoned her plumber friend the next day.

Happens to me all the time, nobody ever takes me seriously, even when I come up with good suggestions.

ya i often get corrected

Seems like I can never say, think, feel, do anything for myself without getting called on it. Like I'm always friggin wrong at anything I do... I don't know if people are being overly critical or not, but it gets on my nerves almost daily.

I always feel like I'm having to defend myself, the way i think, or explain, explain, explain why I think XYZ... I give them half hour explanation in minutia, using science, trial&error, my own past experiences. I get told I'm full of it, or i get the deer in the headlights.

Occasionally I just give up and answer "whatever" or "whatever you want" "whatever you say"... Which doesn't work, I don't know why, you'd think people would be happy to be agreed with.

Sometimes I just know they are plain wrong, and I let them do things their way instead of arguing with them just to watch whatever it is blow up in their face , at which point they give me hell for not stopping them....... WTF?!?!?

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If they do I get away from them fast because that's really annoying.

Nope. I'm usually the one who has to remember not to correct others. lol

I'm so constantly corrected I've developed an "on trial for everything" complex. I habitually and automatically explain my behavior whether the intended correction was positive, relevant or negative. I really think that we're badgered by NT's because they are truly puzzled as to any other means of interacting with us. It's like to them as if we're broken and need to be fixed, or boring and made to be fcuked with.... Anyways, maybe I'm just bitter.