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So, I've been wanting to make extra income, and I was going to be a representative for one of those companies where you host the parties. But then, I was talking to my mom about it, and she basically told me I couldn't do something like that because I could never talk to or have that many people over so often. While I had previously thought about how difficult it may be for me, I also thought in some ways it may help me to be more social and I had talked myself into it to the point I was really excited about it. Now, especially after talking with my mom,I'm not so excited about it and realize I don't think I would enjoy it at all. I seem to be doing this a lot more lately...becoming so engrossed in things that I lose sight of anything else and spend a whole bunch of time and money leaving things half finished because I decide I want nothing to do with them. Now, every new project I come up with, my mom seems really frustrated with me and tells me basically to take my time and not spend a lot because she says I'll just be interested in something else soon anyway. I hate not being able to stick with one thing, but I like my interests while I have them. I really just want to stop feeling like I'm wasting my time. Is this typical of individuals on the spectrum? Can special interests only last a week or two?

Well, most of my interests come and go, but electricity and electronics has been with me forever now. I can actually relate to this post pretty well. Earlier this week I sunk over $100 into a boat-building project, but then resented the project after its first failure. FML. I heard somewhere that DaVinci had some trouble focusing on projects too, which is probably why he ultimately ended up just writing them down in notebooks and the like. It might be a good investment for you to get a notebook of your own, and try diagramming your projects; I did, but I gave it up for now. Maybe you will find it more helpful.
-With love, Kameron.

I've had them happen for a day or 2 and fizzle out on their own without any third party feedback involved. It's good to want to work on being more social, I would start small with something that doesn't require buying anything. If you like to sing or play music you can probably spend an hour a week somewhere nearby where people need entertainment, like a hospital or seniors' home. I've done a few gigs at a developmentally disabled facility and it felt good when the staff said it was a real treat for everyone there. I understand a few WPers have taken the Dale Carnegie course and have been helped a lot. I actually did read "How to win friends and influence people" but retained little of it if any. But if you're not especially musically gifted, even something like filling grocery bags at a food bank is ALWAYS appreciated and there are plenty of people to talk to there as well

I'd try to follow through on some of your projects. Small steps but steps nevertheless. Getting a pattern of giving up before you start ain't going to make you happy.