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zeldapsychology
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30 Jun 2012, 6:53 pm

As Aspies we tend to process things emotionally on a different level. I tend to find things funny that my family doesn't. :-( My family have tried to accept this as who I am but it leaves me doubting will a guy be so accepting and even if so surely not his family. :-( I feel so bad. Some of my recent things are below.

My 5yr. old nephew said "Jeez mom why haven't you left yet?" (His mom Erica was staying for dinner then leaving to get ready for work tomorrow). I laughed since I found this comment funny and cute coming from a 5yr. old and IMO it was in humor not a mean spirited I HATE YOU! tone. Cute/innicent tone. Dad snapped at me OMG! that's not funny!! !!

Earlier in the week I jokingly called my 10 yr. old sister a brat (as a joke Hey Brat.) Then mom was mad at me OMG! why don't you use her name!! !!


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So I was courious what things have you said wrong lately and how do you deal with that? Is your husband or boyfriend/girlfriend understanding of you saying the wrong thing and even if they are surely there family isn't and they hate you! As I assume my life will be. Even if my boyfriend (when I get one someday) I fear his family will hate me for saying some (in there eyes) innopropiate thing. :-(



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30 Jun 2012, 7:01 pm

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I'm actually gonna have to say that your family seems to be seriously overreacting. That was really nothing.

Plenty of people have thicker skin and more teasing or even darker senses of humor than your family seems to. My wife and I can enjoy some very mean spirited humor, even sometimes at each other's expense. Try not to fret too much over your uptight family.


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30 Jun 2012, 7:27 pm

Rebel_Nowe wrote:
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I'm actually gonna have to say that your family seems to be seriously overreacting. That was really nothing.

Plenty of people have thicker skin and more teasing or even darker senses of humor than your family seems to. My wife and I can enjoy some very mean spirited humor, even sometimes at each other's expense. Try not to fret too much over your uptight family.


Thank You. It's hard not to take what they say seriously your family IS your family. :-( It's hard sometimes. Thanks! I agree they overreact ALOT! I do wonder if a boyfriend and there family would be so uptight if I said the wrong thing.



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30 Jun 2012, 7:29 pm

I don't think you said anything wrong. I agree, they're overreacting a bit.



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30 Jun 2012, 7:31 pm

No offense intended, but it sounds as though your family is rather humorless. I have four kids, and I call them "The Hyenas" in front of friends and family with no one becoming offended. Indeed, they usually laugh.



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30 Jun 2012, 7:32 pm

It's just different from person to person. My in laws are mean to each other. They think it's weird that I don't join in at all, but it's because I have genuinely low opinions of most of them. >_>


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30 Jun 2012, 8:47 pm

My family sounds a lot like OP's. I keep thinking if I ever do meet anyone then my family would see it's not just me, and if my hypothetical GF's family was the same way I could be the buffer to their criticism and have someone to share in-jokes with that the NTs would be the ones on the other end in a good-humored way, if that makes sense


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30 Jun 2012, 9:17 pm

If look could kill at my aunts house when my uncle come in the house from work I said speak of the devil.



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30 Jun 2012, 9:28 pm

zeldapsychology wrote:
Rebel_Nowe wrote:
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I'm actually gonna have to say that your family seems to be seriously overreacting. That was really nothing.

Plenty of people have thicker skin and more teasing or even darker senses of humor than your family seems to. My wife and I can enjoy some very mean spirited humor, even sometimes at each other's expense. Try not to fret too much over your uptight family.


Thank You. It's hard not to take what they say seriously your family IS your family. :-( It's hard sometimes. Thanks! I agree they overreact ALOT! I do wonder if a boyfriend and there family would be so uptight if I said the wrong thing.


Look for a good Aspie boy who shares your sense of humor, and you'll be fine :-) If he doesn't love you for yourself, sense of humor included, he isn't the right one.


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30 Jun 2012, 9:36 pm

CuriousKitten wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
Rebel_Nowe wrote:
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I'm actually gonna have to say that your family seems to be seriously overreacting. That was really nothing.

Plenty of people have thicker skin and more teasing or even darker senses of humor than your family seems to. My wife and I can enjoy some very mean spirited humor, even sometimes at each other's expense. Try not to fret too much over your uptight family.


Thank You. It's hard not to take what they say seriously your family IS your family. :-( It's hard sometimes. Thanks! I agree they overreact ALOT! I do wonder if a boyfriend and there family would be so uptight if I said the wrong thing.


Look for a good Aspie boy who shares your sense of humor, and you'll be fine :-) If he doesn't love you for yourself, sense of humor included, he isn't the right one.


I agree. Thanks! I fear though even if you met the right Aspie boy what's to say the family will not hate you since they might expect a typical girl not one with a weird since of humor BUT if the guy is like that him finding another girl with like mind might be something the family would understand. Who knows. :-) Thanks!! !! !



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30 Jun 2012, 9:51 pm

It is a bit strange that your family doesn't seem to share your sense of humour. In my experience, at least one parent of each of my boyfriends has been of similar personality to their son. So chances are when you meet your awesome aspie boy, you won't have issues with his parents in the humour department.

Also in case you are doubting it, there are plenty of guys who have your sense of humour (well, judging just from the info you have given in this thread).