Anxiety Attacks

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Lately I've been having anxiety attacks whenever I'm depressed, it feels like I'm gonna lose control and break down in a crying fit.

I'm in a long distance relationship and even though I love this person I feel a great need to escape it I get so scared of getting hurt, I never was like this does anyone go through anything similar?

Why? Do you think he's cheating on you?

Yes, I went through a long distance relationship last summer. It made myself go crazy and I ended up in the hospital for two weeks after he broke up with me. I was so sure that we were going to work out and he ended up punching me in the stomach. I was depressed for almost one year. You need A LOT of trust for long distance relationships and the shorter time that you are apart, the better.

The best advice I can give you is try to have the most trust in him as you can. Even if you don't, don't let him see it because that can tear your relationship right apart. Good luck and if you have any questions on long distance relationships feel free to pm me.

I have anxiety attacks. I feel impending doom that seems to be sneaking up behind me. I also experience a loss of appetite as well. I also feel the rapid heartbeat and tightness in my chest. I see my anxiety and my autism as two different things. I like my autism but I don't like my anxiety.

I also have anxiety/panic attacks - but I didn't find out that that's what they were until very recently - when I get distressed, I shake all over, I stammer and can barely speak, my stomach feels full of air, and I feel unpleasantly "light," as if my body's floating away. I cry uncontrollably sometimes, too, if it's particularly bad.

What makes me feel more relaxed after they happen (cuz sometimes even when the "threat" or stressor is removed or becomes a non - issue, I still can't calm down right away - my brain is still in fight or flight mode, I guess) is if I take a nap with my plushies, play with my die cast Cars (you know, stroking them, kissing them, talking to them a bit, not the way little boys play with toy Cars), cuddling under my Lightning McQueen blanket, drawing, or watching/listening to my favorite stuff on Youtube. I find that Youtubing Sterling Holloway and listening to his voice for awhile helps a lot.

yeah I get those
hate it when I dont see it comming.. body and lungs go nuts.. freaking world coming down
helps when u remember to do do long inhales

best to not let it build up.. so think bout yer fear
u dont wanna get hurt
well... your gonna get hurt.. and never now how or what
cannot have pos and no neg

but... think back.. you prolly had hurt before.. and made thru..
hurt sucks.. but doesnt kill unless u do something stoopid
dont do stoopid stuff and you be fine

nother thing.. if fear of that hurt is rly big.. maybe it is self confident prob..
fix that 1st

Pink coupe: cars work I like em

I just had one today accompanied by a meltdown followed by suicidal thoughts now I have headache.

I have had a few anxiety attacks myself, not good.
I've had them when i'm anxious and for no apparent reason.

You are young, love holds it's own forms of anxiety, good and bad.

Thanks everybody I guess ur right. I'm thinking my anxiety is mostly caused by the fact we used to talk all the time online and since he doesnt have access to internet anymore it's disrupted a routine of sorts.

I've gotten adjusted to us talking on the phone once a day but I missed a call this morning and he hasnt called back

All I can say is I hate anxiety attacks...and in my case a lot of times if I have an anxiety attack it will also set off my PTSD so then I feel all helpless and afraid but then I'll get all aggressive and crazy on top of it if it goes on long enough to get my PTSD going as well then well it's just not fun for me or anyone else.

It is very frustrating...especially when others can't understand and think you're just over-reacting for fun.

As a veteran of an extended, successful, extremely long distance relationship (we are now married) I recommend having a decent idea of your partner's schedule. It really helps keep away the prying thoughts of what could be happening, if you know what should be (is) happening. Being an aspie in a long distance relationship can actually have its benefits. At least one of the variables tends to be a serious homebody when an aspie is involved xd

Also, if you have any particular anxieties, discuss them openly. I cannot stress enough the importance of thorough communication in a long distance relationship. If you clearly communicate your worries and he reassures you, but you still worry over them, think of the statistics of the relationship. How often has he lied to you about what he is feeling/doing? How often does he dramatically shift from the anticipated without warning? As an aspie, it can be difficult to know what your partner is feeling/thinking. Be sure to communicate that when you feel out of the loop. Adhering to these ideals actually lead my wife to help me realize my aspergers and helped her regain a faith in men that poor father figures had left seriously damaged.

Believe me I'm a huge believer in being completely open but I'm afraid that if I bring these kinds of issues up that they will bring up more issues. I'd rather avoid that, I know that's not a good thing to do but I'll only obsess more.

As long as he calls me every day I'm sure I'll be okay and maybe I just need to distract my mind somehow.

I still hate myself for missing his call but I was sleeping, it's not my fault and I called him back and he called me back but he hung up after the phone rang three times :/ I wonder if he's mad at me

If he's mad at me that wouldn't be very fair :/

I know it's intimidating, but it has to happen in a long distance relationship, if you really want it to last. The only way to stop obsessing is to deal with all of the issues in some way. Just discuss things as calmly and rationally as possible.

The fact of the matter is, it's only natural to be insecure at times in a long term long distance relationship. There is no avoiding it for either party. That's why it is so important to talk about it once in a while. It allows you to reestablish an atmosphere of trust.

I too suffer bad anxiety attacks I have a social phobia and if I go outside my unit to the local shopping centre I end up spending most of the time in the toliet and I end up having to go home. Only in the last 2 weeks I have been put on medication from my doctor Paroxetine 20mg for my anxiety and Obessive compulsive disorder, panic attacks, stress and depression too many things going on in my life and around me that I do not understand neither process its starting to work and I find that I for the first time in my life I can enjoy just walking around with friends looking at the shops without feeling like I need to run to the toliet even though I look like a zombie.

Had them all my life,carried onto the school bus in first grade crying and begging to stay home.I have GAD so i get these weird feelings like something is sneaking up on me or that something bad is going to happen that I can't put my finger on.I take Ativan and it helps some but I have more anxiety than pills so sometimes I just have to ride it out.I put the thought in my head that all things will eventually pass and this is no exception.