Parents took door handle off the door to my room- Weird?

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Let's rewind about a year and a half. My parents where complaining that I spent to much time in my room and decided to take the door handle off. Their theory behind this involved me being forced to leave my door open. This was really annoying to me since I am very sensitive to sound so I just barricaded the door (usually with a textbook) to keep it shut and (try) to keep the noise out. But the more I think about it the more odd it sounds. It is actually very hazardous in my opinion because it is nearly impossible to open the door from the inside with the AC running. You have to reach under the door and grasp the outside of the door to open it. It is very annoying and relates to Autism because it violates the one spot in the house that I can escape to if need be. It is really a violation of my privacy in my opinion (I'm 16). They promised to put it back on for Christmas but didn't. Does this seam odd to anyone else or is it just me? I suppose it is their house though. What do you think?

could you remind them that you haven't received your christmas present yet? a teenager needs and deserves privacy.

you could get even and take the handle off their bedroom door =)

It's your house, too, because they chose to have you and add you to the family 16 years ago. If they didn't want to share their home for 18 years, they shouldn't have had a kid. Having a child does not entitle anyone to disrespect him or her, and that's what they're doing. It's not okay. You deserve to be just as comfortable in your room as they are in theirs. Unless they've removed their own door handle, you should still have yours.

in any case, maybe you could save up like $15 and go buy a new door handle and screw driver. Or, better yet, remove theirs and put it on your door!

I think that their approach was misguided. maybe they thought it was a character problem. Did they ever tell you why they did that? I think being assertive about it would make a difference. Either way, it doesn't seem right to force someone to make a change like that.

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I don't really have much advice, but I have a serious opinion. If you have an official aspergers diagnosis, you have been justified in causing a row over this since your doorknob was removed.

Seems very strange.

There is only one thing worse than Autism and thats parents that dont understand it.

How would they like having to sit on the toilet with an open door without door handle?.

Very very very very odd behavior. Privacy is important and a good thing.

Seems kinda idiotic, what if there is a fire?.

I dont like it when parents try to do smart things like that, reminds be when i was a kid an was locked out of my room, i punched my arm straight trough the door and then opened it.

Dont f**k with aspergers kids and their private room. Thats just not a smart move. either denied the access to the safe spot, or preventing them for being in there by not being able to close door.

Fire is no joke or thing to be dismissed. You might consider calling your local fire department, ask them what they think, and then pass the phone.

As everyone said, that's just bizarre, as well as not safe or respectful.

It is not just you. That's invasive.

If you want to sort this out by talking to them, I understand.

But I know my parents tried this and talking didn't do anything.. so.. if not:

Pm me your mailing address and I'll go pick one up and send you it- it will be their house. But YOUR doorknob.

I'm sure they meant well, it's likely they thought you might spend more time out of your room socializing. That said, I think they went about encouraging you to do this the wrong way- everybody needs a private space where they can feel safe and retreat to when life becomes overwhelming. I'd speak to them about it at a time you are calm and they are more likely to put it back on. Sometimes good parents do dumb things without meaning to be mean- I know I've screwed up a few times with my kids and I'm sure I will again!

You know, I don't think you can assume they meant well. They know that abstract appreciates being able to spend time alone, and deliberately removed the doorknob from his bedroom door to deny him privacy. This by itself shows that they do not consider his boundaries when they make decisions about him.

I am not sure whether they meant well is relevant as compared to the results.

You get your bedroom doorknob as a X-mas gift? Then they renege? I thought my parents were inside down but this really is alien emergency. I mean, the real door is your mind and it probably doesn't have a knob either.

Threatening his physical safety in the process.

What is it to say we mean "well"? This is vague sometimes. What I see, is that they meant to put socialization as a higher priority than privacy, sense of security, and even fire safety (and that's the best intent we can assume; it could be worse). In fact, it seems the latter was so low on their list of priorities, that they didn't even bother to consider it. The values here are warped.