Aspie traits or not.

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We both were given birth by a mother that can drink any man under the table as well as being a heavy smoker. Here is what I have noticed about my twin brother especially since I've learned about many more of my own Autistic traits despite me being diagnosed 2 times for Autism.

My brothers traits-Aspie or not?

1. Incapable of socializing and having sex though he likes women.
2. Just laughed when a woman tries to caress or kiss him.
3. Never make eye contact with anyone else
4. Fixated on diecast model cars dating from the early models to modern models. And he has a large collection of
them. He won't put them out on display. He has a terrible fear of them being stolen.
5. For quite a while he ran in the house everytime he seen me out.
6. Really bad money manager.

7. Always picking on and making smart remarks to others hurting their feelings.
8. "Don't do what I do but what I tell you to do" attitude.
9. He is always right even when he is wrong
10. He never apologize for his behavior
11. He was never able to keep a job because of his mouth.


Before I have learned so much about Autism I just thought my twin brother was a loud mouth know-it-all, hollier than thou a**hole. But now I'm seeing him in a different way and hopefully I can now be more patient with him.

The first 6 traits could be autism. 7 through 11 are just bad behavior.

Last edited by Marybird on 22 Jul 2012, 12:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Though I divided what I thought was Aspie traits from bad attitude traits, I wasn't real sure if any of the last ones had to do with Aspergers or Autism.

<--- Always wrong even when he's right. Go figure.

You are wrong!

Well, at minimum, he seems to have some of the traits.

I noticed you put "never apologizes for bad behavior" as an AS trait. I'm fairly descent at apologizing but I know 2 different men who I strongly suspect are aspies and one of them would rather die than apologize for anything and the other will apologize for things that don't mean much but when he does something really hurtful he won't apologize even when he is directly told he has hurt someone very badly with his actions. The second one claims he is not an aspie and is nothing like an aspie when I can assure you he has some of the "classic" signs of aspergers, although he may be sub-clinical/borderline.

So I guess I want to ask how common is this trait in aspies and if it is more common in men than women?

My father has lots of Aspie traits, but might be subclinical. He would never ever apologize, even if he knows he has done wrong.

As for me, I tend to apologize way too much. Since I'm not good at picking up cues, I can never tell when a person has not been offended or when he/she has been offended, but it trying to hide it. I can recognize when people get angry with me, but I have no way to know whether they are VERY angry or just mildly annoyed with me (unless their body language is very expressive). And I care a lot about not hurting their feelings. So I'd rather apologize, even if it is not needed, than be oblivious, not apologize and leave the person upset with me... I must say that this is annoying to people too, so I try to tone it down and stop after being told that it's okay.