What Should I Do In This Situation?

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So, I've been taking a lot of tests and doing a lot of research about Asperger's syndrome, and I have reason to suspect that I have it. I won't go into details, as I made a whole different post about it.

The problem here is, I would like to be diagnosed, but I have such a mild case of AS that I don't really need any special help other than a few lessons on social skills. I see that as a problem because I feel that if I was diagnosed, my school would put me in some class and give me special attention. I don't really want that.

It might sound completely ridiculous, but I want to know whether or not I have AS, but I don't want my school to give me special treatment unless I really and absolutely need it.

My questions are, have any of you been in this situation? If so, what happened? But more importantly, is it worth being diagnosed? Thanks!

Your school won't put you in a special class unless you need the help. If you got diagnosed with AS, doesn't mean they'll start treating you any different.

I am in sort of the same boat in that I want to know but it is of little actual value to me. What you could do is get a diagnosis and not tell the school. That way, you have it for your records if you need it in the future. As for the social stuff, see if you can get the therapies that are used for it outside of the school. Otherwise, my suggestion is to have friends you are close enough to that you can trust to tell you what you missed in a situation. I learned an awful lot about life this way long before I had ever even heard of Asperger's.

My daughter has AS, was diagnosed 4 years ago, and she is at 7th grade right now. She attends a regular school and is not receiving any special treatment (and the school knows about her dx). The only special treatment she got is that she sits in front (because if not it is more difficult for her to concentrate because of the noise), but I had to ask for it.

I think the only way your school will find out about your dx is if you tell them. If you dont, they wont find out of give a cr@p. Believe me, they dont want the extra work. Actually, if you need special treatment you will need to ask for it and prove that you need it. If you have gone so far without any help, probably you do not need any at this point.

It is worth being diagnosed only if you feel you need it. For my daughter it was very important because she started receiving the help she needed (she had HUGE issues inside the classroom). You can "use" it to prove other people why you are "different", but usually people with AS do not want to do that anyway. My husband is 43 and he is an Aspie but he has not being diagnosed and he doesnt care. He knows what he is. Thats all that matters to him.

That's very helpful, thank you.

I don't know why I care to be diagnosed so much. I do still feel like I'm uncertain, and I do hate uncertain situations. It would just be easier to find out for sure if I have AS rather than self-diagnose, at least for me.