...or can you tolerate them?
For example, being invited to someone's house but there is no plan to do anything but sit around (and gab) for hours.
i feel incredibly nervous in those situations...i don't understand how people can spend hours doing nothing but talking. i find it both boring and draining.
It is much easier when someone invites me out to a time-limited activity. For example: a movie. Or driving around. At some point it has to end.
When sitting around in someone's house, it's different. I have a hard time telling people I want to leave. I feel grateful for people's hospitality, so it is hard to explain how difficult it is to sustain social interaction for hours.
Going out to a ball game, driving somewhere, or attending a time-limited event is different. In the end, you go home.
Eating out at a restaurant is OK, but when the food is done i want the check and to leave right away.
If I have to spend a whole day with a friend, I prefer it be broken up; for example 1 hour doing this, then 1 hour doing the next thing........not 14 hours non-stop talking or sitting in one spot!! !! !
I love my friends but have a hard time asserting myself. I mostly cater to their wishes because i'm grateful to have company.
Asperger's can be a funny thing. You long for friendship yet wish to be alone sometimes.
i get quite claustrophobic in social situations.....just don't like spending hours in 1 location, unless it is something active, like a sport, or walking. But sitting around, no!! ! It drains me of what little energy i have....socializing for that long makes me want to tear my hair out.
Any of you feel the same?