Do you have a bad temper

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i find i have a pretty bad temper. i get mad easily and throw fits i.e. when i get stuck at a long red light, traffic jams, or when my internet goes out. i often yell and cush, and sometimes break things. y anger sometimes worries me because i dont want to loose my temper in the wrong way and have something seriously happen that i regret. sometimes i wonder if being on the spectrium has sometthing to do wth it. do you have a bad temper too? i

These temper fits you describe are meltdowns. They can vary in intensity. They are unreasonable over reactions to situations that cause frustration, anger, and stress. People on the Autism/ Asperger's spectrum are prone to these.

We are also more prone to emotional meltdowns.--Over react and do intense, weepy, crying jag type of things.

We are also prone to shutdowns, where we tend to speak little or not at all for a while, avoid people, tune out the world, etc.

Fun, huh?--NOT!! !

I find myself reacting angrily to very, very ordinary nuisances which other people may brush aside as trivial. For instance, extreme, explosive anger over something as trivial as the Internet not working or speakers going down. Is this typical of AS folks?

Oh yes, I am a very angry person. I'm prone more to anger meltdowns than emotional ones, I was much worse as a child where I don't believe I had the element of control, or the ability to sense which actions would have bad consequences.
Everything makes me mad, from computer lag to wind blowing on my back outside, which makes my hair fly around in front of my face and I have such a hard to being able to forgive and forget.
I have few friends, mainly because when I get angry, I abuse them with nasty words to release my frustration.

I have even hurt myself as a result, and am ashamed to admit I have hit my dog because of it, there is simply no rationality in my head when I get mad at something completely mundane.
I have worked really hard to learn to control it, though, and now just yell and swear horrendous things and often pull my hair.

When I was a kid, my Mum would send me to my room when she sensed a meltdown coming on, she often told me how much it scared her because once in my room, I would go absolutely mental. Anything I could grab and destroy, I did with little thought.

It's also really difficult avoiding situations that stimulate the meltdowns because they are often all so trivial, looking back I would often start yelling at strangers because they looked at me for more than a couple of seconds.
I cannot drive, I cannot have children, I can't babysit, I can't listen to the radio or watch television, I also cannot work in an environment that requires social interactions.

But yes, I can relate wholeheartedly with you.

I used to have the worst temper. Any little thing would set me off. I would turn into a total monster. Blinded with rage. Won't get into it but I wasn't pleasant to be around when it happened to say the least.

I don't experience the rage anymore. I learned how to control it. Only took over 20 years. Nothing really sets me off anymore. Im very calm for the most part. Which is good. Less stress and aggravation in my life.

I have this problem also. Mainly in situations where I feel trapped and overwhelmed (like at the traffic lights, or when something takes longer than expected to occur, or when I need to get to my "safe place" (my room) because too many triggers have been set off in me, and one small thing happens which is the final straw).
I hate having this as it doesn't win me any favours with anyone around me who has to witness, plus I get a horrid surge of negative emotion which takes a while to settle down plus adds stress to my body. I will often feel the need to throw things which isn't helpful either. I try to pick soft, meaningless things, or, I have this foam pool noodle that I beat my bed up with to release the angry energy in a healthy way.
Since having accepted my diagnosis, I have set about making sure I have the things with me that I need in order to prevent any triggers building up. Like, listening to my iPod in noisy places, etc. It helps a LOT. Before I accepted/knew I had AS, I would just put up with it and keep beating myself up to try to push through it like everyone else. Now I know I am not the same as everyone else, it feels ok to just put my iPod on, and not worry what anyone thinks.

I'm autistic, and I never had a bad temper. However, I used to have violent/destructive meltdowns whenever I got scared, because I didn't really talk, and even when I was a bit older and I started talking I felt a bit awkward about telling people my emotions. It wasn't nice.

Now, I tell people about whatever's bothering me.

at school i smashed up a dell pc cos the stupid thing took forever to reboot after not giving me a chance to save my work so i ripped the cables out and threw it across the room....

mind you, it was after a long day filled with bullies, inept teachers and inept teachers who bullied me.... and a PCS teacher and headmaster that did F*** ALL about it.


nothing like that has ever happened since - due largely to the fact that i'm not surrounded by people or things that cause me that amount of stress. and if i feel it building up, i just go for a walk and/or play some loud music - loud music always helps for some reason, either hard rock or jungle/dubstep....

No, I hardly ever lose my temper. Even when I do, although I feel very out-of-control at the time, postmortems usually indicate that my response was fairly measured and reasonably socially acceptable.

I'd probably be a lot worse if I didn't habitually avoid over-stressful situations. But even while I was living in the pockets of a partner who was stressing me out with her pathological behaviour, I never lost control. I kicked over a coffee table but broke nothing. She had an anger management problem, and I got so sick of her having this freedom to rant over the top of whatever I said, this bloody-minded angry voice ripping at me while I copped for all the hard work of trying to keep things on an even keel, that I found myself joining in, just to get even.....it did no good, but it felt good at the time and I think I'd have burst without some kind of outlet for it. But that's not a bad temper.

I can have bad moods where I shouldn't talk to weaklings because I can only express negativity, as it's all that occurs at such times, and it drags the weaklings down with me.......one day I might meet somebody strong enough to withstand my cynical attitude and actually help me pull out of it.

The problem is that I'm wide open to becoming passive-aggressive, because I'm so reluctant to flare up and be actively aggressive. Therefore, assertiveness is vital to me. If I make it clear what I want of people, and engage with them, complain, remonstrate, persuade, argue, put my foot down, negotiate, etc., then there's no need to get sucked into game playing.

I used to have really bad meltdowns if I did not understand what was going on around me and too much stress when friends involved me in their personnel issues and dramas which I did not understand. I threw a 51cm TV and a guitar at my Mum and put my fist threw the wall because my cat died and I had no idea what emotion to express or how to express how I felt it took me a week to show sadness and my Mum explained to me when people die and animals die we show sympathy and show the emotion of sadness instead of throwing things. I used to throw things, smash everything in my room, belt anyone who came close to me when I was having a meltdown, I used to scream and yell not that I understood what I was saying at the time and then finally when I did settledown I would start shaking like I was having a fit and start throwing up loss bladder control and end up in bed for two days. I was so embarrassed when I used to have meltdowns I felt so ashamed and felt horrible I didnt mean to do what I did and I would get so depressed, down and sad that I would stay in my room for days and not come out.
Once I nearly took a door off and smashed a glass window and knocked over two rubbish bins all because a man who abused me and nearly raped me wanted to work at the disability centre I was attending he turned up when I was there to talk about working there.
The support workers ended up taking other disabled people out of the centre so they can be safe when I totally lost it all because this guy was there.
As I have gotten older the less the aggressive behaviour these days when things get to much I tend to have really bad anxiety attacks and end up very sick and in bed for days and not come out of my unit and go quiet and I tend to sleep alot. I am also medicated which makes me very sleepy and calms me down and helps to stop aggression, mood swings.

I do have a really bad temper but I can usually control it especially in public situations.

I used to get mad and break stuff but I dont do that as much anymore. now I just yell or bottle it up inside of me.
I yell at my computer a lot. I also talk to myself when im mad.

Yes I have a very nasty temper. Fortunately most people I knew understand I'm still a good person and tend to just ignore when I get really angry. Luckily I'm much better than usual but usually lose it whenever someone directly calls me out in front of a group. I suppose that's my way of saying "you are NOT bullying me anymore!"

Yep, I have a bit of a temper. I don't have full-blown meltdowns too often, but I tend to get really worked up over minor things.

I'm more prone to emotional meltdowns. I get weepy and just need to be alone for a bit.
When I was younger I would feel a lot of rage sometimes; I usually expressed it self-destructively. Haven't felt that way in a while, though.

I have a bad temper. I hit my puppy pretty hard tonight because I was mad at her I dont normally do that but I was really mad. I feel bad about it...