Friendships don't last at all

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TowerCrane
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13 Aug 2012, 8:25 pm

Can anybody relate to this?

Whenever a friendship/acquaintanceship arises between me and another person, it usually doesn't last long at all. 80% of all relationships end within less than a month. On top of that, whenever I enter a new social environment, I end up being completely isolated and ignored within about a month on average. It's as if I don't exist. At first, however, I do talk to people who approach me etc, but all this fails to lead to a relationship.

This happens every single time. Well, it didn't happen as often when I was a child - it only happened in around 1/2 to 2/3 of new social environments. However, now it happens in about 9 out of 10 social environments.

Can anybody relate to this?

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13 Aug 2012, 8:30 pm

The only time I've personally maintained friendship is throughout school, and only because being part of a group mostly shields you from being singled out. As soon as I left school, I dropped all friendship and never spoke to or contacted any of them again. I'm sure there's people out there I'd generally be interested in being friends with, but I'm yet to meet any in real life.

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TowerCrane
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13 Aug 2012, 8:33 pm

CrystalStars wrote:

Even at school, I wasn't really a part of the 'group' or the 'general friend circle', if you will. Someone said that I seemed like some kind of a spectator, and that I observed and didn't participate.

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13 Aug 2012, 8:39 pm

friendship is a two way street. you have to put something in on your end or people will loose interest quickly. It took me many years to learn this.

TowerCrane
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13 Aug 2012, 8:43 pm

chris5000 wrote:

friendship is a two way street. you have to put something in on your end or people will loose interest quickly. It took me many years to learn this.

I have no idea what to say nor how to act unless it's about a specified topic, such as the activity we're both participating in during the conversation (ex: riding bicycles), or some other precise topic.

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13 Aug 2012, 8:46 pm

TowerCrane wrote:

chris5000 wrote:

friendship is a two way street. you have to put something in on your end or people will loose interest quickly. It took me many years to learn this.

That's why I find online friendships a lot easier. Easier to find people who have the same interest, meaning you can relate and share ideas, thus keeping the friendship running. There's also less call to rely on awkward social cues. *shudders*

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