I feel lonely every night of my life

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I have noticed that every night I get really lonely and depressed. Mostly because I have no friends but also because I fear that I am going to be alone forever. My mom will die, my siblings will move away and I will never get married. My younger siblings see their friends every day and I sit home with my mom. I just get so sad and lonely at night. Im just a lonely teen with no friends or any kind of social life. Does this happen to any one else? How can I feel happy at night?

I am sorry you go through that *hugs*

A pet helps. Do you have one, could you get one?

I felt that way as a teen too. It sounds cliche, but it really does get better.

Do you have a social group for people on the spectrum? If not, maybe your mom could help you start one.

i feel similar to this.

i feel lonely quite a lot, and i generally have to go for walks to stop thinking about it.
i have a social life by chance. pure chance, i happened to make a friend in school who i hung around with (kinda followed really) who led me to one of the people i've now known for 4 years who invited me out places and helped me fit into the group a little.

but i also worry about being alone. more than anything in life i've always wanted to have a girlfriend. The fact that i watch everyone around me with someone doesn't help. not having someone like that leaves me feeling completely lonely, sometimes even when im with others

My advice for you is to try and make 1 friend. from that, try to expand. and yes - i'd recommend a dog or cat.

*hugs*
I agree with Cherry_Blossom; a pet would keep you from feeling so lonely, especially since your profile mentions you have an interest in dogs. Do you have any other interests, that you could join a club for; clubs are a great way to meet people. Don't feel too worried right now; your mom and siblings most likely will be around for a while, and there is always a chance of making friends; either now or in the future. And there's people here on wrongplanet you can always talk too. Good luck

I agree a pet would help. I eventually outgrew my need to be with people, because it was more stressful to be with them than to be alone, and I prefer less stress. Here are some other options you can try:

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. Humor also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy, and enough of it. A healthier diet will boost your immune system and is also good for your mind. Skimping on amount of food leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick.

- Get enough rest. Being tired leads to depression, crankiness, and being more prone to get sick, too.

- Listen to and/or play music. This is mood boosting.

- Take courses, either in person, or online. Some of the online ones are free. The in person ones are a good way to meet people.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are, who would really appreciate the help. It's also a good way to meet people, and boost your self image and mood.

- Take up a hobby or join a club. These are good ways to meet people who share your interests.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, events at local libraries and other local organizations. Attend local sporting events, fairs, and art shows. Attend and/or participate in local theater groups. Attend events held at local houses of worship. These are all great ways to meet people and boost your self image and mood.

- If you don't have a job, consider employment/or self employment. Great way to meet people, boost self image, put money in your wallet, gain experience. Perhaps you should consider self employment. There are many types to choose from.

>> Lawn mowing/yard work/gardening.
>> House cleaning.
>> Errand/shopping service.
>> Wait for service people, so the home owner/renter doesn't have to take time off from work.
>> House/pet sitting.
>> House chores for the elderly/disabled.
>> Handyman.
>> Tutor.
>> Computer maintenance/repair.
>> Website design.
>> Other website based businesses.
>> Paint houses indoor/outdoor.

There are many other self employment opportunities. Your local libraries will have books with lists and descriptions of them, so look into it.

Now, go and do something, and good luck!

You've received wonderful advice. I just wanted to add:

- If you can't have a pet right now, volunteer at a shelter or take up TNR if there are strays in your area. Caring for others less fortunate makes you feel stronger and more apt to cope with life on your own if and when the time comes.

- Stray animals or those in shelters are elated to see you at any hour of any day, so you never feel lonely and you always have somewhere to be. With time, they become like friends or family, even if they don't live in your house.

- Caring for homeless animals makes you so tired you fall asleep contentedly and without negative thoughts.

- Know that our worst fears rarely come to pass. The future is always different from what we think.

- if our worst fears become reality, it's never as bad as we thought while we lied in bed at night fearing them. Imagination and night make everything seem worse than it actually is if it comes to happen.

- ask your parents to help you prepare for a life as independent as possible. A savings account, even if starting very small, and learning a crucial work skill are great ideas - a foreign language, for example.

- Continue sharing on these forums, your fears will gain perspective and feel less overwhelming.

- If you want, tell us a bit more about you so we can give more specific advice.

pm me...BABE. (fyi...I don't know what "pm" is)

I feel very similarily, my parents dying is my number one fear. I am now 24 and my siblings live away, I miss them and struggle to feel I know them anymore. I'm not allowed to live with my parents and I feel very empty.
Having pets has been the best thing, I have one friend who is very similar to me and she has pet rats too. Having animals around has meant I have company, I couldn't have made it through the last 4 years without them. Waking up every morning and seeing their little faces, going to bed and knowing I'm not alone has been a really lovely thing. I could never have it with humans but find it really easy with animals, I really can't recommend it enough. x

That's exactly what I do, ha, sit around home all the time with my Mum. I don't feel lonely, though, but do get a bit jealous when I see people I know making plans and functioning well with their lives, and being successful etc, it's as though everyone's moving forward and I'm sitting in a hole, subconsciously wanting to get out, but am too damn interested in all the bugs that live there.

I really don't have the energy to care, though, I feel comfortable with my life, it's monotonous, there are no surprises lurking and no careless & out of control people in my life.