People annoy the f out of me

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Why are people so afraid of ridicule? I mean I know I am but only to a reasonable degree. But a lot of NTs that I know always seem to think just because they are thinking something, everyone else knows exactly what the situation is and will judge them for it for the rest of their life, when, in reality, they probably haven't even noticed or heard. Like if I shout something (not at the top of my voice and not by an open window), my family always seem to think the neighbours out in their gardens will hear me loud and clear, when rationally they can not. I've been in my garden before, and heard the people in the next garden arguing, (fair enough, I was outside aswell and so were they), and then they both went in, yelling and shouting, and shut the door behind them, and I didn't hear them as soon as the door shut, and their windows were all open, and I knew they must of been still arguing after slamming into their house because they wouldn't just stop shouting in mid-sentence and suddenly go all dead quiet. If anything they probably argued even more. And because our gardens are very wide and big, the houses aren't too near eachother anyway, and are very solidly-built, so it kind of isolates a lot of sound.

But anyway, I'm not going to keep going into description to avoid ''yer but....'' and ''how do you know....'' arguments here. What I'm saying is, NTs can be so paranoid and funny about silly things, and people tell me that I worry about such small things! And I suffer from paranoia and social anxiety, but I still don't think everybody in the world can hear what I'm saying, even if they can hear a voice but not the words, it still ain't going to make much difference. It only gets a bit worrying when I scream and slam doors when having a meltdown, maybe they might pick up on that there is some barny going on in our house, but they have been our neighbours for 7 years and haven't judged anything against us. They even rely on us to look after their cats while they go away, so they can't be that afraid of us just because of hearing the odd row every now and again.

God, what is up with people?!

They clearly care more if the fit in socially than you do. Even if the neighbours do want you to come look after the cats, that doesn't mean they haven't gossiped about what goes on in your house. And your parents are probably are bothered more about the fact that they gossip than you do. You're probably viewing the way they would react in the way that you would react. And you've already said your reaction, 'So what? Everyone fights sometimes'. And you probably wouldn't start gossiping about that fight the neighbours had either.
It's not necessarily a matter of them being more paranoid than you, its just a matter of what they value.
Pretend you're a chef and you slightly char a piece of meat you're cooking, although you seasoned it perfectly. Most people would eat it and be like 'you're an awesome chef, this tastes so good!', but the chef is probably thinking 'I messed up so badly, I can't believe it'. It's like that.