Aspie thinking?

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There's this teen (he's 17) I know who has AS who I some time ago had a conversation with where I thought, this really is very typical Aspie-thinking. But I'm not sure so I'd like to know your opinions. Please read and comment.

Here we go.
(I don't remember it literally, for that it was too long ago)

He: Just imagine, today when I got home from school on my bike, there were two girls in a driving school's car behind me on the street who smiled and waved at me.

Me: How come, do you know them? Have you ever met them before?

He: No... Does that mean they want to be my friends?

Me: I don't think so. They don't even know you after all, and I don't think this is how people make new friends.

He: But then why were they waving at me?

Well, to this I didn't really have an answer either. I just told him that maybe they were taking him for someone else or just wanted to be friendly or were in a silly mood.

But I was surprised that he immediately thought it could mean they want to be his friends. Would you have thought the same in such a situation?

I'm female, but yes I would have made the same assumption. I did not know how to make friends either when I was younger.

being diaganosed in fourth grade made things easier, then being diagnosed later on in life....for me at least...sorta.

urm....I'd be saying that they were just being friendly. if as you say he's got A.S, then he isn't a sociable person, and doesn't know and may not have dat many friends.

Other then that, I'd need more info to go on, to help. I'm a sorta quasi psychologist, and with my aspieness, it helps.

I think I understand this.

If someone asks me who a famous person is, and I try to tell them, I say, "He has been working for a long time!"

A lot of people with AS play guessing games.

If it were me, I would think they were just trying to be friendly or I probably wouldn't even notice at all that they were waving at me.

Like ghostgurl, I often MISS such things! No less than 3 times people laughed at how I never noticed them. Frankly, I wouldn't care if I thought that! Under the same circumstances, I would have asked you the SAME question.

Steve

I imagine they were just trying to be friendly, or the may have even found him to be attractive It's pretty common in my neighborhood to wave at neighbors even if you don't personally know them. It's just something we've always done around here as far as I can remember.

Around here you dont make any sudden hand movements in the direction of the neighbors

But in any case most of the time when someone waves at me unless I know them I dont bother trying to give them a motive I just chalk it up as some silly habitual ritual they are bound to so I humor them by giving the appropriate response.

I'd probably dismiss it as a "hey, I rememeber you" gesture. They probably recognized me from the time they've seen me before somewhere, even if I don't remember when. I woudn't pay much attention to it, and just go on with my life. When Risingphoenix said "this is not how you make friends", he was right. It's nothing more than simply acknowledging me in a nice way.

Yeah the best way to make friends is to walk down the street with fake dynamite glued to your vest and lots of bright colored wires going all over and see who comes up and asks about it rather than running away

Sometimes NT girls wave to guys sitting at bus shelters, driving cars and even riding bikes because they want to see the other person wave back to them. I don't 100% know why but I do know it's just them being friendly and wanting attention from a stranger. I refer to the bus stop one because I was sitting at a bus stop the other day waiting for someone and these girls in a bus just waved to me for no apparent reason. I certainly didn't have a problem with it, but I also didn't interpret that they wanted to be friends. Just act like little teenage girls.

Nevertheless this behavior you specify does seem typical of a person with Aspergers.

- Chadders.

I would be confused, and would probably assume that they mistook me for somebody else.

ditto.

but in most cases, I don't care what others think about me.

If I did, I'd be a psychological mess.

sorta am.....but I make it look good.

When I was a kid, I would have asked the same question. Hehe, knkowing me when I was a kid, I probably would have smiled and waved back, thinking "Wow! What friendly people! Nothing like those horrible kids at school who make fun of me!"

But after being burned several times due to my seemingly infinite social naivete, I would have thought they either mistook me for someone else or they were making fun of me using sarcasm.

I don't know how to answer the question posed, though, because I'm not an autism / asperger's specialist or anything! Is this an example of Aspie thinking?