Do you get along with other Aspies?

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I'm just wondering because for quite some time, my therapist and a couple of family members that sympathize with me in my current state of isolation keep suggesting over and over that I join a "mothers group" during the day. I guess that this is the logical thing to do, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I think that I've just reached my limit when it comes to failed social relationships. They're all getting to the point where they're concluding that it's my own fault if I don't have any friends, because I refuse to try...but that's not how I see it. I see it as if I've tried and tried and tried and finally after years and years have determined that trying more/harder isn't the solution. Anyway...I ended up marrying the only person that I've ever been able to connect with, and it turns out that we both have AS. That explains that! Now I'm wondering if I might do better socially if I tried connecting with other Aspies instead. I mean, it worked with my husband. Now that I am aware of having AS, and starting to learn about autism in general, I see that the general attitude seem's to be to try to help NT's and ASD people connect. I have to admit, I find myself wondering if this makes any sense at all. I could learn to mimic NT behavior better, which I want to do for a variety of reasons, but those reasons do not include feeling like it will help me to form deep, meaningful friendships - which is what I feel is missing from my life.

That being said, I was wondering if any of you have had better luck connecting (in person) with other people on the spectrum? I see that it's not exactly easy to find these people, but I'm sure it's not impossible.

I don't know for certain whether people I know are autistic or not but... in general when I see autistic traits in other people it really annoys me.

I despise them if their behaviour is too obvious. As I get to know a person better I can sometimes get used to it or get past it, but as far as first impressions go it provokes a pretty negative feeling in me.

Hmmm, well I haven't really met many aspys in real life. I have met one, and she is cool

I only have 1 Autistic friend, and one of my other friends has some sort of disability but I don't know if it's AS or not (I don't like to ask in case she might not like to talk about it). She has said she's got a disability before (mental disability) but I didn't like to ask.

But with the friend who definately has Autism, yeah I get along with him like I do with anyone really. After all, he's just another human really, just like all my NT friends.

Nope. Most are too negative and too critical about the world around them.

Whether someone is diagnosed or not, who you are going to like is subjective. I don't see why I couldn't potentially get on with anyone, providing they have similar interests and traits to myself. Although, someone who is diagnosed may be more understanding if you project certain behavior that isn't considered "the norm". I myself went to an aspergers group before but didn't make any solid friendships there, although it was a rather small group. So while there is a certain advantage to it, its not always the answer.