Exchanging phone numbers with new friends?

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How do people normally exchange numbers?

How do you add people on Facebook?

I usually always wait until people offer their number or ask to exchange numbers, but I never really know when it is appropriate to initiate this.

As for Facebook if you don't know someones second name, but have become friendly in work or college for example, how do you add them? Or is it inappropriate or too early?

You could use little business cards with your name, phone, email, facebook URL on it to give to someone. I have business cards for my handmade jewelry, so I find it easier to write my number on those and make a friend by saying "Here is my number call or text anytime" than fiddling around for a scrap of paper and a pen. That way, if they don't want to give you their own info, they have yours and can add you or not add you at their own option.

Usually it seems like NTs are happy to add as many people as possible to their facebook networks, so if you casually mention that Facebook is the best way to keep in touch with you for a school or work project or other group, they will be happy to add you without much thought or strings attached (These are the people that have like 500 friends on facebook and seem to have added every one they have met since Kindergarten). What I'm saying is that it doesn't have to "mean something" of big importance to offer to be friends on Facebook, because people seem to friend each other quite freely, I don't think they analyze it or even give it much of a second thought.

hope that helps

I find "let me get your information" to work fairly well. Then I take out my cell phone and ask if they want to call me or if I should call them (right at that very minute, because then you have the number already in your phone and you just have to add their name).

It seems to me that most people are fairly free with sharing their phone numbers these days, particularly if you are of the same gender and share some kind of common interest (like for me other kid's moms, or people at work)

I hate to talk on the telephone so the last thing I do is give people my telephone number.

The primary purpose of my telephone is in case of emergencies.

A few years ago, I had a telephone that had a switch on the side to turn off the ringer. I once went two months without ever turning it on at all. I later found out that my oldest brother had tried to call me repeatedly and was wondering if I ever went home.

At work, I can't turn the ringer off, but I turned it so low that I can't hear it from more than 20 feet away.

For me it really depends on the amount of times I have interacted with them and how long I've known them. I wouldn't like to exchange this kind of information with someone unless I had a fair idea of what kind of people they were. Made that mistake in the past and discovered we didn't have as much in common as I thought at the time. Plus, with facebook I have enough insignificant people on there as it is never mind adding to it.

Rewind the tape first....

Think: "Do I want to talk and text a lot?" If your answer is no, then don't initiate unless it's someone you really want to get involved with (generally speaking).

Personally, I couldn't imagine myself getting interruptions in my thought processes by exchanging random whims all day long. Also, for me, Facebook is just a tool to passively absorb demographic information. But seeing as how I have a vested interest in my wife, I make exceptions for calls and texts from her, etc. Hypothetically, I suppose juggling 3 or more people would be very cumbersome for me as I'm only really concerned with what she's doing and what I'm thinking about.

Just imagine the situation first before you act. You can get very good at things if you practice, just know the consequences beforehand. (Opening up lines of contact in this manner is not easily "reversible".)

PS: My Facebook has been public since day 1 (years ago) with a published cell number that no one has ever called. I've never openly told anyone to leave me alone, they just somehow get the message.. I suppose that's what makes them the all-mighty NT's!

The last time that I was working, in january, a colleague asked to swap numbers but I said "It's not worth it".

He seemed slightly surprised. I just said that I can't really be bothered with phone numbers.

Another bloke, that I worked with in 2010, used to e-mail & text me, until I ignored his Facebook request. Haven't heard from him since.

I barely use Facebook, I don't like it. I'm only on Facebook because an old friend wanted to get in touch with me. So I joined, as he has some serious mental problems & I wanted to help him out by talking to him via Facebook.

Usually I just stay really passive and wait for them to make overtures to me. Haven't ever asked to friend anybody on Facebook, don't even know where the button is for that. But Facebook friending is almost completely meaningless anyway, s there's no particular reason to be wary of it.

With phone numbers, again I just wait for them to suggest it.

I don't know if it's shyness, habit, or the need to avoid making too many friends. For one thing, friendship is a serious thing for me and I don't want to start looking like I really dig somebody if I'm not likely to have the time to keep things going. It's not as if I've never asked for a phone number or been otherwise proactive about making friends......it always feels a tad risky but it doesn't really scare me.