i do not have meltdowns

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its as simple as that
i catgrize ever pice of bad behaviy as bad behavior on purpose in other words i know what i was doing and grop ever price of bad behaviour as that

any easle do the same?

More power to you.

My daughter is known to throw tantrums. She knows exactly what she is doing when she does it. Is that what you mean?

I don't have outwardly angry meltdowns, I do cry sometimes though. I learned at a very young age that having a tantrum is almost "evil" and would be dealt with very harshly and usually involve my mom using religious guilt. I was afraid to even express anger appropriately for years. I can express anger now, but I don't yell or swear or throw things because I'm still afraid of behaving the wrong way. I usually shut down when I'm upset and have a tantrum inside my head where nobody can see or judge me for it.

most of the time but some WTF moments as well
but i am not that good of a person to people

Lucky, lucky, lucky. Meltdowns are probably the most distressing single symptom of autism.

What does happen when you get severely stressed? Do you just get tired and go to sleep or something?

i usely go in the garden

if im in a classroom ware i con't just pop out

i sometimes hit a adult
and sware and thow things about

me neither...lucky us..

Wait... So you have a choice about this--you can easily decide not to hit people, not to swear or throw things, and then you do it anyway?

Either you enjoy hurting people, or you really are having meltdowns you can't control and for some reason prefer to tell yourself that "I wanted to do that all along".

If you want to stop doing that stuff when you get overloaded, you have to face up to the fact that you have poor control of your behavior in situations like that. If you don't, you'll never make headway with learning how to prevent it. You will get nowhere if you just keep telling yourself "I should be able to control myself whenever I want to", then blowing up and throwing things and swearing at people, then telling yourself that you did those things because you wanted to, then feeling horrible about yourself for doing them. Either you look at the problem head-on and find ways to solve it, or this is going to keep happening.

I think the OP can learn lessons from me, about sensitivity.

I don't have violent meltdowns and never did. However, I do have emotional breakdowns from extreme duress at times where I need to go off and cry for a few minutes. I can control it though for long enough to get away from the situation and not let anyone see me. I am fortunate in that this has become a rare occurrence for me these days as it happened quite a lot in my twenties.

well the stuff in the childens home im at don't belive me when i say im in full control and do all my bad behaviar on porpouse

Are you saying the staff tells you that you know what you are doing and are in full control? And that you have come to believe them?

I don't have tantrum meltdowns either, but I get depressed instead. Often, aspies get one of the two. Instead of exploding on someone else, I just silently crash. I isolate myself, find everything I do awkward and unnatural and completely lose connection with other people. Even when I am with them at such a time, it really feels like there is this thick wall of glass between us, as if I do not belong and have nothing to contribute to any kind of social interaction. I usually just try to keep to myself somewhere until it passes.

Thank you for posting this! I thought I was the only one who did this instead of having the overt meltdowns that people always talk about here.

I do this. But I can only do this for so long and then it all comes out.