Ive just been dx with Aspergers & ADHD i feel sick :(

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im 20, and yesterday i went for a aspergers assessment for 3hrs in england, it was just a casual talk

then at the end the doc told me i had aspergers, but also ADHD?



ive not told anyone, i feel so alone i have no one to tell, so ive found this site, and i feel like such a freak and quite sick ive been in bed all day, i dont understand why i feel so sick about it its just such a shock, i feel like im not normal now i feel vulnerable and scared

is this a normal reaction to just being diagnosed? im really upset i feel like i need to talk more to someone but i dont no who

Its normal. I was in total shock when I first heard about it... Then it got worse with the diagnosis.

In time the shock will wane, and you'll see that you are the same person you were before the dx. It's weird, but it might give you some answers. Hang on there and good luck.

Na bro scientists say that having aspergers is like being a real life mutant from xmen, most of us like myself are super smart. to be honest i love being different. im 27 and pursuing acting as a career . cheer up man

Hello and Welcome,

was it really only a long talk, no questionaires and standard tests at all? That's strange, but it doesn't mean it's wrong...

I'm sure you'll feel better tomorrow. Of course, you are NOT sick. The diagnosis is only a word spoken by a doctor. It does not change you or your life, unless you change yourself because of somebody's word.
You don't have to tell anyone. As long as people don't know you're an Aspie, they'll treat you just the same as before. But if you had trouble with parents or teachers, maybe they'll understand you better, knowing why you're different.

Maybe you should go outside and do something nice. You'll see that the world is still the same.

Yeah, it's a shock. When I got my diagnosis a few months ago, my world turned upside down. I was useless for anything for several weeks. It just takes a while to adjust to that kind of information. So I'd say your reaction isn't outside of the normal range.


You may find the diagnosis a good thing over time. I did. I finally found out why I had so many issues dealing with people my whole life. Now that I know how I'm different, I can work with it instead of against it.

thanks everyone

no there was a questionnaire i had to fill in and i had to give all my old skool reports in before the appointment

the talk was like a casual talk like "what r ur hobbies; what do u like collecting; do u like watching shadows or lights; what foods do u like, what types food can't you stand the feel and smell of" loads other things i was being questioned but it felt like like a chat really, cos the doc made it so relaxed, then he let me talk about spongebob squarepants for awhile lol, it was nice to talk to someone, i kinda forgot what i was there for , then he was like after 2 and half hours "u wanna know what i think?" then he told me and drew it out to show me and said i had adhd and aspergers

he kept stopping the chat cos he said i needed a break and asked what i did to calm down and i said hide under my duvet, so he said i could hide under my coat , i said nah cos thats abit weird isnt it, and he was like no u can do anything in this room, so i did lol, but yeah i think he must been doing observation as well cos i didnt talk loads and loads :S

Hello and welcome to WP. I was also shocked and very upset about my diagnosis which I got when I was 14. I only really accepted it in the last 4 years or so.

You are not alone at all man,

When I first got diagnosed as Aspergers, Mild Social Anxiety, ODD I was like my god.. I always thought this was all just my personality but it turns out it's all a f*****g disorder?! I couldn't accept that I basically had to personality aside from my disorder so I took some time to read online about it. I wanted to know 'why' then I read that possibly the founding fathers of my country and Albert Einstein could've had asperger's syndrome and that made me feel better.

Because those men where very important to history and nobody talks about how messed up or different they where! History remembers all the great things they did for the world as a whole and it inspired me that maybe I can do something that the world will remember. Also, it seems more like a gift then a curse really. I mean.. think about it.. If you where a super social flocker like seemingly everyone else in the world you would just be another sheep in the herd, It appears to achieve great things in your special area of interest you would have to give up a small bit of something and I'm glad it's social skills and not something 'important'

I suggest reading up on it more for yourself, you now have found out that you'll live like this forever. Bind with the mutant gene don't try to deny it or you'll just feel horrible muhahhah!

Am I the only one who found it a relief to be diagnosed with Asperger's? My life had become a horrific mess, I was kicked out of the home I was in and abandoned in the hospital a week before Christmas before being diagnosed. Having Asperger's is not the most horrible thing in the world (hear that, NT's?). I was a really bad mess after my diagnosis too, but after moving back in with my parents, getting my act together and then finding a good place of my own where I'm in control has greatly improved things. Now it's the cruel, dangerous, awful, disgusting, doomed outside world I'm forced to occasionally go out in I have a problem with!

I'm still reeling from my diagnosis, even though I suspected AS and had the ADHD dx since childhood. I don't know how to accept it, I hope you find a way.

Just remember that an official Dx doesn't change anything about who you are. You are still the same person you always were only now you have an explanation for some of your eccentricities. Also, what you are going through is very normal. I am sort of kind of self diagnosed and when I first figured it out, I cried (mostly over the whole "lack of empathy" thing). I would have taken time off of work to deal with it except that I can't afford to do that sort of thing. A few months into it though and I have calmed down and am debating a professional diagnosis to settle the matter. If I got it now, I don't know how I would react but it would probably just be a huge sigh of relief.

You're not alone and you've come to the right place. You have nothing to feel sick about. You've learned the reasons for the difficulties that you must be having to get those two diagnoses. That can be a happy positive moment. It's not like you have a terminal illness and now you have a whole bunch of new people to support you. This site helps a lot if you give it a go... but the benefit you get from it will be proportional to what you are able to put into it if you see what I mean? Though it may be very hard, if you keep posting and reaching out to people here it can help you learn to feel less confused and dismayed by it all and to become at peace with it. It might take a long time but you can become at peace with it and, without meaning to put undue pressure on you, you have to eventually but you are young and you have time.

TLDR: As someone else said, you're the same person you always were; nothing has changed but now you don't have to blame yourself for your difficulties.

Welcome to Wrong Planet by the way.

edit: I also have mental health problems and probably AS as my signature mentions so I also understand that what I posted may make no difference but I still feel these things sometimes need to be pointed out. You're also not bad or wrong to not be coping well with it. It is a major thing you have learned BUT in the long run it is GOOD that you have learned it now while you are young.

thank everyone

before i got diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD, i was diagnosed with Social Phobic Disorder (SAD) and also Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) about 2 years ago, now im totally confused if i have the SAD and GAD anymore cos to be honest i think its all the Aspergers all along, i'll have to ask a doc next time i see them, cos theres no point me thinking i have tons of labels, if it was just the Aspergers (oh and the adhd but im not so bothered about that diagnose),

my aim in life is to just get a job one day and not be scared of it, and to get a boyfriend one day, but these things scare me so much cos i dont know how to do these two things, cos my anxiety disables me :\, i prob won't be telling alot of people about my problems, just my uni, i feel people will judge me if i say ive aspergers if they don't get what it means :\

I still don't have an official diagnoses.......but I wasn't that terribly shocked when it was brought up to me or that the therapist I had agreed I probably have AS. I mean I suppose I never felt normal to begin with ever since I was around 7 I was wondering what it was that made me so different from other people I guess I spent some of the time just thinking I just failed at life. So I imagine it wont be a shock to me if I get diagnosed which will hopefully take place on the 27th.

I feel very much the same. I have not been diagnosed yet but the more I read, the more AS would explain everything about my childhood and who I am today. It makes far far too much sense to not be the case. I always wanted to answer the questions of why I was/am this way but can't honestly say I was fully prepared for THIS answer. I hope I will get used to the idea over time and I very much hope the same for you. It really really helps that there are others here who I can relate to so much (so much that it shocks me sometimes) so please know that you are not alone and there are others going through this too.

Si