My social skills vary from good to poor.

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Does anyone else find that, in certain situations or with certain sorts of people ie those you feel confident in or with, your social skills are good, and that in other situations your social skills are poor? I dont want to sound simplistic, but as my diagnosis is new, I am still feeling my way. I had thought that my social skills would have to be poor in every situation to be diagnosed. In situations where I am confident, I come across as perfectly 'normal.' In other situations it does come across that there is something a bit 'off' about me.
Also, one thing I find with AS is that a lot of people will say, if you mention some of the symptoms, that they feel like that at times as well. It is as if they want to negate the condition or something. And when someone I know from a situation where I fucntion well says that I have no problem with social skills, this makes me feel like a fake or something. I do tell them that they haven't seen inside my head or seen me in a situation where I function badly.

Yep, this happens to me all the time. I think aspies have harder times prep-ing and recovering from social events. Regardless of whether the social events went well or not. All social event use your social engeries.

When it comes to certain people giving you a bad day, I would avoid them if possible. This is nothing to do with your condition, your just not a good match to that person or persons.

Yes I have that trouble too-if I am with people I know it is easier than with strangers and people I do not know.

I'm not sure if I'm in the same situation or not. When I'm with people I don't feel comfortable around, I simply talk very little, which makes me feel awkward, but when I'm with people I am comfortable around, I talk way too much about things they are not minimally interested in, and tend to say quite weird things, which probably looks even more awkward than just quietly sitting in a corner. The difference is that i know that people I'm comfortable around can accept the fact that I'm a bit strange.

It happens to me too and I must say I don't like it. I often think I'm socially awkward but then there are times when I feel more "normal" and it's easier for me to socialise. Those moments make me doubt everything. Those moments of feeling a bit more "normal" make me doubt myself and for a while I'm afraid I might be "faking" all my social issues. It's probably really weird to think that way, but that's what happens. I don't like it. It's confusing.

I think that for me the difference is not whether I'm socially awkward or not, but whether I'm aware of being awkward. (I've come to the conclusion that I'm just always awkward, whether I'm aware of it or not.)

Basically the end result is that when with unfamiliar people I don't say anything because I'm concerned about it, and with familiar people I more often say things...most of which are awkward, but I'm less aware of it, because they've ceased reacting to me seeming weird because they're used to it.