Does ego bother/annoy you?

Post Reply New Topic

I have come to learn that egoism bothers the hell out of me. The quickest turn-off to me is shameless bragging. Actually, it is more than that. It makes me really irritable and makes me feel overloaded... certain environments (like people playing shooter games with voice) I just can't stand because of displays of ego. It makes me mad and overwhelmed but I don't know why. Anyone else?

yes. when people get all cocky and brag about themselves I get very agitated and uncomfortable. I don't really know why either. I think it's because it makes them sound so stupid.

Yes it does. In myself as well, i have always thought of having less of connection to my ego then the people i grew up with. I think it has to do with me being an aspie and the way i socialize. Whenever i have periods where i get intensive with socializing my ego also drastically increases and after a while i start to notice my foolish behavior and get back to my previous self.

Its not just bragging, moments where i am just speaking my mind with no intention to harm. People will still take the words as a reason to feel bad. After it happened i can see they are hurt. But i can't do much about it. Its not my responsibility to cater the way i talk to fit with their insecurities so they don't feel uncomfortable. Its annoying when your words get interpreted the wrong way because some people have these trigger areas.
This is what i like about myself, people have a hard time offending me or making me feel bad when commenting on my personality. I expect the same from other people.

Arrogance bothers me, people thinking they are better than they really are and, therefore, better than others. However, if someone is genuinely good at something then I have no problem with them enjoying the fact.

Can be a bit annoying when someone wants to brag about something at which they excel and it's something in which I'm not in the least bit interested. I'll suffer it for a time as I have probably bored the pants of people in the past.

It bothers me as well. I figure it's because I become intimidated, and then their bragging somehow entices me to act out in a similar somehow ultimately dumb way. It's hardwired into the human animal or some metaphor to that effect.. and it's annoying.

Much like being horny and feeling inevitably compelled to impress attractive women by.. bragging. I'm not sure why that annoys me either, though.

Ultimately it all defies rational analysis.

I think the key thing is that I feel I am being manipulated.. I 'automatically' feel compelled to react in certain ways, even though my 'truly conscious' self can't think of any reason to do so.. yet I feel like I really should somehow

I also don't like it when people brag. It makes them seem like know it alls, or that all they like to talk about is themselves. I can't stand big egos. A big ego doesn't turn me on and I was never attracted to cocky people, anyways.

The kind who bother me most are those who have to brag and boast about every single new materialistic thing that they have acquired, and every place they have visited since the last time I saw them. That explains my in-laws to a tee.

Yes

I used to be really arrogant but I don't think that I am not that bad anymore.
A friend of mine was playing ssb melee with me and 2 other people. He would not stop saying how he was really good with this one character (when we all chose the same one) so I only targeted him. Kind of helped that i was the best one at that game on our floor.

If someone is arrogant than I feel the need to prove them wrong. There is a difference between knowing your really good about something and being arrogant or boasting about it.

Yes, I hate waffles.

Nobody likes a braggart; NT, Aspie, or otherwise. It's obviously very rude to brag anyway, and the fact that it's offensive to most people, is probably why it's considered rude. I have a special pet peeve with those who buy an expensive car for the purpose of showing their finances, when 90% of the time, the car is on a lease or with a big bank debt anyway. Once in awhile, you get a chance to shoot down one of those yuppie "better than everyone" people... One of my favorites is when there was a "gym rat" type of guy, who was a real estate broker, showing us a house. He was wearing an expensive-loooking suit; tailored just so as to show off his pecs, etc., and he showed up in a new top-of-the-line BMW, and he happened to let it slip that he did not himself own a house. He said he spent all of his time at the gym and at work, so he didn't need his own house yet. So my wife and I were listening to all this, and we had gone to meet this BMW-driving fitness-conscious broker in my beat-up '96 Toyota truck, and we were wearing jeans with holes and loose T-shirts; covering up what he probably thought was fat rolls on me. He probably looked at us like "what makes you think YOU could possibly be able to buy this house" (He was polite, and didn't say that). After he bragged awhile about how many escrows he had closed in his first year, and how great of physical shape he was in (not that great IMHO), I couldn't resist lifting up my shirt to wipe my sun glasses; exposing my hard-earned sixpack abs (and I had not mentioned that I'm a bodybuilder), and at the same time, my wife commented that we would not be needing to seek a bank loan if to buy the house. He glanced at my abs, and stood silent, and just about imploded.

Charles

If someone does something well and brags it doesn't bother me. What bothers me is vanity. What really annoys me is when homely people believe they are the best looking people in the world or people who obsess over images of themselves. I have never encountered anyone who is attractive physically as they think they are.

yep