Get very irked when people pull my leg in public.

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I get very irked when people pull my leg(not literally) in public! I simply do not comprehend the idea of pulling another's leg(not literally) in public!
I know they are just having some harmless fun and I still cant wrap my head around it.I get too irritated and yell at them some times. Once, I had created a scene after controlling for sometime!
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How comfortable are others about this?
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Any ideas on how not to get irritated?

What do you mean by pulling your leg?

It irritates me as well. To them it is just harmless fun but I never have any Idea how to react to it and it just ends up annoying me.

Thank you, TM. Your definition is what I had thought too, but actually, the official definition of pulling someone's leg is to try and make them believe things that are not true. So we don't know exactly what the OP means, and there's no example given to infer from.

If by "pulling your leg" you mean singling you out as someone who's good to have a laugh at the expense of, then rather than learn how not to get irritated by it, you should learn how to leave those people behind. Because if there's ONE thing in relationships that nothing good will ever build upon, it's lack of respect.

Thank the irritation rather than wish it away, because it's there to alert you.

Do people tease you a lot in public then?

I do get grief by people (mostly women in their 60s and girls in their late teens and early 20s). But it's in a slightly different way, I get more targeted, like if someone wanted to sit on a bench and the benches were all filled up, I would be the first person on the bench that they would go up to and tell to stand up to let them sit down. Also I get jostled a lot in shops by women in their 60s.

Interesting topic... Yes, I always felt insulted by being made fun of like that because usually it caught me off guard and I couldn't come back with an appropriate reaction. I would begin analyzing the facts behind whatever the jokester had said. If I probed them for more details or what they meant, they'd laugh more, and I'd get really angry at the added humiliation. That was when I was a kid.

Nowadys though I err on the side of assuming someone's joking (by default) and then just briefly looking for any signs that they may actually be malevolent (which usually is not the case).