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I have often noticed that children dont seem to like me they run away on seeing me
Once i went to give some information to a neighbour
her daughter ran away and hid behind the cupboard.
the neighbour was surprised she said she never seen her daughter run away
such a way.
Does it happen with other aspies.....
I dont look scary at all...i look quite ok.

A lot of kids if you focus your attention on them before they get comfortable with you there will run and hide. Just ignore them until they approach you. If I don't see one of my nieces or nephews for a while they are very shy at first but by the end of the visit they'll be hanging off me like monkeys

Other Aspies? I see you note that you aren't sure you don't have it. So my question, do you have that punk look with scary tattoos, rings in your lips and nose? So you probably need to look at how you dress since many childrean are very sensitive to anything very different. Even at my age, I feel extremely uncomfortable around people that looks too freaky. Even though you don't think you look freaky that don't mean the next person will think like you do. It has nothing to do with whether a person is on the Autism Spectrum or not.

sometimes I would try to smile at children (because that is what I was told to do when I got a job in a daycare centre) but my fake over-exaggerated smile looked kind of manic and my eyes looked bulgy (because I tried to smile with my eyes too) and this scared children and sometimes made them cry and run away. I didn't realize my fake smile was so scary until it was pointed out to me. I don't know if this could be part of the reason. Also don't stare at children.....or look at them for too long when you first approach them or see them as another poster mentioned.

they never come back once they have run off means they run off

no i dont have any scary look. i dress simply i just look like any other girl next door.
yes i dont smile much..

ya even i am unable to smile...i have a fake smile.
and i am not good with children...means i find it difficult to make a bridge with them.
if thats the case its more of faking myself to associate with them...
probably they can make it out and so they run away

I would have to agree with daydreamer. My daughters friends have always been scared of me.

My niece turns her head and cries when she sees me.

I very rarely have any contact with children but when I'm out in public young children tend to stare at me.

Since i hate children thoroughly i try to radiate this dislike or at least stare like a monster when they are around. Due to this aversion i highly appreciate when they keep out of my way. Rather a bogy than being annoyed by brats is my motto.

Body language is huge. Kids are more judgmental it seems. They aren't as scared with me but one thing that instantly makes you more inviting is to smile. If you convey the emotion of happiness in your body language, and you come across as a fun person (even if you are faking it because you have had that bad of a day), kids will love you. If you have a hard time doing this then do some stuff kids would love to do, like color, swing, etc.

if i could fake myself i would have faked myself in all situations and had a great social life....

It's the funniest thing: no matter what mood I'm in, whether I dress like a hobo or an executive, whether I'm sitting or standing, whether I ignore them or not children are drawn to me like a magnet. I've spend a long time thinking about this and the best I can come up with is they pick up on how genuine I am, which also explains why a few adults are scared of me because I can be blunt and to the point.

I have the opposite. I don't really pay attention to kids and talk to them the same way I'd talk to anybody else, and most of them can't get enough of me. They drag me along to show me whatever or want me to play with them. It's bizarre and a little frustrating.

Kids have never been afraid if me. In fact most of them ignore me.