Managing anxiety during a big change

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I live within a housing association and the estate I live on is about to get knocked down. I've known this since I moved in, but we've been given a date which we have to move out by now. We registered with the council for a house a few years ago but they never told us what you have to do to get a house (bid on properties) - they just said "We'll write to you."

Now we've found out about this bidding thing, we get 3 bids per month on properties. People with more priority needs (those with children, who are escaping domestic violence etc) are pushed ahead of you in terms of priority. Lots of them have hundreds of bids for one house. The ones with less bids are miles and miles away, too far for me to cycle to work which would mean I'd have to get public transport which freaks me out.

Part of my routine and my need for same-ness revolves around where I live. I know the buses, I know all the roads and quickest routes on my bike, I know travel times, I know opening times of shops, I know routes I can take to avoid crowds etc. Essentially, living here my anxiety is so much better even though it's still very high. Not to mention it's just a nice place to live, and there's a park really nearby for my dog.

Now we've started looking at having to move, I'm freaking out. If I had an idea of where we'd move to, I could at least start getting to know the area, but I have no idea. Our landlords could give us 2 days notice to move out before we've even got a house. I feel all sick and shaky. I feel like so long as I have my base, everything else I can cope with but this is the one stable thing I have and it's changing. How the hell do I deal with this?

I wish that I had answers to give for this. Moving is the most stressful thing I've ever had to do. And I have had to do so many times. Too many.