A one of those "Is this to do with autism?" posts.

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There's something I have problems with and I'm wondering if it's ASD-related.

I'm thinking it may be to do with 'executive function' or general lack of ability to cope with change.

I plan to do something - for whatever reason I change my mind about doing that - I then struggle to make new arrangements. If I have more than one option I struggle making a definite decision...if I rule out one option then rather than forget about it I'll argue with myself right up until the very last minute, thinking that if I was to hurry I could still go for that option. It means I can't firmly make a decision about what to do and I get very anxious.

It's hard to explain to other people the various thought processes involved and why it makes me feel the way it does. Unless I have VERY CLEARLY DEFINED PLANS IN ADVANCE I get flustered, anxious, confused about what to do...I can get confused about what I need to do and when, I have problems motivating myself to get up and do what needs to be done, can't make changes or new arrangements easily, etc.

I don't know if it is specifically ASD related but I know some NT’s that never understand what I’m going on about when I get flustered over this stuff. I certainly know EXACTLY how you feel. The thought process is so totally bizarre but when I read what you had written then I knew I do the same thing.

The making/changing plans thing is a pain but clothes are a problem too. If I have it in my thoughts that I'm going to wear a certain item of clothing (like to an event or specific activity), but then the weather dictates that I can't, then I really struggle to put on anything else. How hard should it be to put on a silly pair of pants! But there are too many options and even if I'm running late I argue with myself that I can still wear *whatever* and will deal with a/ being too cold or b/ being too hot etc.

It seems so childish, but it feels like I just have no control over it. The anxiety creeps up just thinking about it!

I do the very same thing

I simply don't make plans. I'm sure I would have more problems if I did.