"why did you want to marry her?"

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I had a lot of people over the past several months, during all the turmoil with my now ex-girlfriend asking me why I was willing to put up with what I did, and why--before I found out all that I did--I was willing to marry into that.

Well, my response was as follows:

"to be perfectly honest, I really haven't gotten much better from anybody else. The more I get to know almost anyone, the less I generally like them. I pretty much assumed that's how it would go with almost anyone. The standards of excellence I aim for just seem so high to most people I deal with, that I'm guessing I'm the only one willing to aim that high."

I concluded with "considering all the pitiful standards and lame excuses from everyone I had to deal with thru such a difficult period, I almost wondered why I didn't just take myself off the grid, completely" And no, that didn't mean end my life, if you folks hadn't figured that out.


Surprisingly enough, despite all the difficulty I had in dealing with people over the last 2 years or so--now including my ex-girlfriend--I'm suddenly getting a lot of people coming out of the woodwork offering their support to me upon the news of my relationship having come to an end.

I must admit that it feels really nice seeing people come to me to offer me support now, even though they didn't do so much before.

Is it...that they just couldn't relate to my previous situation as well, but this one much better so?

Any ideas?

And for those wondering, as I stated in a previous thread....no, I'm not devastated or anything over the events that have transpired. I may not like being single, but I'm ok with it this time, and I feel a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders now that this relationship is over. I honestly feel better now than I've felt in a very long time.

The OP reminds me of a similar question posed by Spock in an episode of Star Trek ("Star Trek: Journey to Babel", #2.10, 1967).

Amanda: And you, Sarek, would you also say thank you to your son?
Sarek: I don't understand.
Amanda: For saving your life.
Sarek: Spock acted in the only logical manner open to him. One does not thank logic, Amanda.
Amanda: Logic! Logic! I'm sick to death of logic! Do you want to know how I feel about your logic?
Spock: Emotional, isn't she?
Sarek: She has always been that way.
Spock: Indeed. Why did you marry her?
Sarek: At the time it seemed the logical thing to do.

Yeah, but ... I keep imagining this flashback scene where a young Sarek is staring in wide-eyed amazement at a young Amanda and saying...

"You're having my WHAT?! !"







(Danged shift key keeps sticking...)

People have relationships and stay in relationships for a lot of reasons. Not always healthy ones. (eta: a really crappy therapist once told me that)

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Well I was willing to look past the negative and focus on the positive...until I saw just how overbearing the negative really was.

Lemme give you a brief analogy via Greek Mythology: she was the Sirens.

the irony in it is that she loves doing karaoke, and claimed to want a professional music career, but isn't a very good singer.