Am I just going through a phase?

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Lately I've been tense... I tend to be alone and on the Internet a lot (how I deal with post school day stress) and it makes me happy, but my parents are trying to force me to spend time with them when I really just want to be alone. It usually happens along the lines we are hanging out in the living room and I want to go to my room or take a shower and they get ticked with me and go "oh there's that grumpy problem we've been talking about..." and they say it in a tone as if they wanna punish me so I just stay though they then go "oh just do whatever you want" in an even more ticked tone of voice. It happens about once a week, and I'm getting really sick of it and I want my life back not having to worry about that crap. I'm sixteen, and they're close to turning forty, I guess they're acting this way because they don't want to think of the fact that I'm growing up into a young adult, and they're starting their middle age years. Apparently I give dirty looks when it happens even though I don't even know I was doing it. I guess I may have been a bit moodier lately I'm not quite sure, and I figure I might be going through an adolescent phase which could explain the so called "grumpy" behavior, or are they going through a middle age crisis, or is it both clashing and causing the tension. Being aspie makes it more difficult I feel, and I'm wondering if any aspies or auties have been in my position and what you have done to make the situation better? I do love my parents but they're really adding to my stress lately.

Do your best to ignore the passive aggressive bits ("Oh, go and do what you were going to do").

From your description, that's *them* being grumpy.

Or: you could tease them a little: you go off to take a shower; someone comments on it, you back down; same someone comments again ("oh, go ahead and go take a shower. Be grumpy."); respond back with a smile and say "yes, your High Grumpiness!"; then give said parent a kiss on the cheek. Then go and have your shower.

Forty!

Thats juvenile to me!

Lol!

Anyway.

Not sure what the context is.

But since you're an aspie they are probably worried that your NOT growing into a "young adult" properly because you're too isolated.

I dont know. But it sounds similar to issues with my parents when I was 16. Might be for similar reasons.

When I was your age ( pre personal computers by the way) I had similiar issues with my parents. They worried that I had no friends and were angry that I stayed in my room ( and read, drew pictures, other hobbies).

I guess I was atypical of 16 year olds in that I didnt have friends, but I was typical in that I want to break away from my parents. So if I WERE to bond with people- those people would NOT be my parents. They were the last people that I wanted to interact with. So that caused alot of tension.