How to deal a spoiled rotten snob?

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I have this situation on the bus I do not know how to handle. There's this eight grader who is a snob who is self centered and thinks she knows everything and is smarter than every one else, and she gets rude to me sometimes for being who I am, different, and I'm in eleventh grade and I don't understand why she lacks respect to me and it makes me very unhappy. Today I felt like I was socially able to fit in and I cracked a redneck joke relating to West Virgina and McDonald's and she was like "that's so sterotypical" in a snobbish I'm better than you manner. I tried to defend myself but I never had time to speak, so when I got a chance I told them her that this behavior of hers will be pretty detrimental in highschool espcially since she'll be a freshman next year. Her and her little following friend shut up, and I could tell the friend was umcomfortable. However I'm afraid that this is a precursor to her shushing me when ever I talked to my only friends on the bus last year. It started after something so similar to today. No matter when I tried to talk to my friends she'd go "shhhhh" and get louder each time. She excluded me from socializing with them, she even got one to turn on me because she found me "annoying" even I did not talk to her. One day I sat farther back in the bus and she turned and gave me a dirty look like she was satisfied at my suffering. However I was too embarrassed to say anything except to friend since I was a 10th grader being disrespected by a 7th grader, and I was unable to put her in her place as the way it os expected for a high school to break the freshman/middleschooler's direspect with some sort of hazing or embarrassment. My friends told me to ignore her but I am very sensitive emotionally and she does not stop when doing that. I can tell she spoiled rotten because she has had a kindle fire since 7th grade (i know because she held up our bus once when she forgot in her locker), she has a smart phone, and she once asked me if in the high school if students were allowed to text in class. Also she is rude to her friends for some personal reason sometimes but she plays it off as a "joke" and her friends laugh it off saying she is mean though I'm pretty sure she may just be using them to make herself feel more on top. She supposedly backedstabbed someone while auditioning for the middle school play so she could get a part. I also recall another time when she started the "shhh-ing" and I told I did not care about her opinion on me being able to talk and she was like "Oh you should care! I'm important!", it only shut her up for like a day or two. I'm afraid she will start pulling this stuff again and I want to express my right to talk to my friend, and not put up with her crap. What should I do if this starts up again because I can't handle more of it. Please help me, I can't verbally defend myself and I don't know how to. Any suggestions on how to deal with this unruly brat?

when she does something rude, respond by rolling your eyes and saying offhandedly "whatever". then ignore her. you don't have to shush because she wants you to.

I've found that when you deal with bratty, irrational, and generally ignorant people, a good thing to do is to just smile and laugh. Don't let this person think that she is getting to you, because she will think she has won.

BTW, when I say "smile" I don't mean agree with her if she insults you, I mean just use it as a defense mechanism. Nothing pisses an angry person off more than seeing that they aren't getting to you. For example, when I worked in a computer shop there was a customer who was always right (or at least she thought!) and was very rude. On the company computer there were several notes about her past visits and how rude she was.

I repaired her computer (that she completely infected with trojans and viruses due to no firewall or antivirus!) then complained about the rate I was charging. I explained that I spent close to 4 hours on her machine, and she had a contract. It was an honest price and I wasn't even close to over charging. She then demanded that I give her back her computer, so she could get another estimate. I informed her that the work was already completed, and EVEN offered to come down on the price by 10%. By doing this I would be losing money, but I wanted to keep a good reputation. Well she was still unreasonable. She thought just because she was being rude and loud that I was going to budge.

After 5 minutes of her yelling at me, I just started grinning and repeating "is that your signature on the contract?" I had her dead to rights, and she knew I was right. She just wanted to see if she could bully me into a discount.

Getting back to OP's issue, If what I have suggested still doesn't work, either talk to an adult or see if you can take a different bus. Also, maybe try ignoring her completely. She has no power if you don't give in to her. She will eventually move on, and harass someone else.

You've already stood up to her once.

Do it again.

You have nothing to lose.

The next time she says "Shhhh!" say aloud, "Who are you to tell me not to talk? You're the trashy bigot who thinks she's better than anyone else. If either of us should shut up, it's you. Now mind your manners or you'll start losing the few friends you have." (Don't say it with strong emotion. Say it calmly. Maybe with a laugh as you get to the last part.)

See how she handles that. I'm assuming she doesn't really have friends but just people who put up with her.

If she tries to talk back, you try shushing her, and don't let up.

It's been said that bullies tend to run away when you give them a bloody nose or a fat lip. I'm not recommending getting physical, but the verbal equivilant could very possibly get her off your case.

One warning-
If she then tries to get friendly, don't take the bait. She could easily be trying to lure you in and then pull some stunt meant to get back at you.

Stand up to her, and then after that never let your guard down where she's concerned.

Yes, Sethno has very good advice. Let us know when she breaks down in tears!

Or.. you could do one of the two things that ever truly work. Knock them out or ignore them. I suggest the latter of the two personally. All of the drama and what people think of you really doesn't matter. People like that make it matter because it's what the TV tells them to do. It took me a long time after High school to realize that the best you can ever do in these situations is just pretend like they didn't say anything at all. It won't matter what they think of you doing this because you are the better person. I watched a lot of those types of people from my school turn in to druggy douche bags or single mothers.

These are NT problems and all we need to do is just rise above them. Ignoring them might be hard at first but eventually they will move on. People like that want the rise out of you, they feed off of it. There are people like that all over the place, even those that might be close to you. People like that start being fewer and far between after high school and it may seem like a long time, but it's not.

Edit:XD Never mind my obvious contradiction in that last part. Both are true, but it is much easier to avoid them later on.

Last edited by DamienScott on 19 May 2013, 11:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I roll my eyes obviously and laugh in such situations. People get very embarrassed. I am the expert at getting under someone's skin (passive-aggressive). I can make anyone lose composure and act stupid.