Managers who actually notice your quirks?

Post Reply New Topic

Yes, I have had 2 managers like this. Both hired me for my personality quirks in my interview: the excitement about my special interest, and the pauses that I gave between questions asked and my answers told them that I thought seriously about things. Am I the best at my job? No. But those managers were awesome at giving me a good sense of self. One of my managers retained me even though on day two I let her know that I was going in for an educational assessment. I feel blessed.

I know my current boss knows my quirks and the previous one almost certain knew I was AS. Even though I work in a very large building I generally work alone and socialize at my comfort level so I never get overwhelmed. It also helps that few people willingly want to do my job since it requires being so isolated. Win all around!

It was frustrating to be rejected over and over again at interviews because of assumptions people would make about your lack of charisma or eye contact and assume that meant you were dishonest without a shred of evidence and plenty proving how reliably and trustworthy you are.

My Bosses say that I am a slow learner and it takes too much staff time to train me. So then I attempted to train my Bosses.

My boss told me that he has to remember that I always do exactly as he says.

At my old job the assistant supervisor told me things were black and white for me. One of them was I am told to do something and I end up doing it NOW but that is just me being literal. I don't know people mean later when they tell me to do something. If I am told to do something after I am finished with something, I tend to forget because I didn't do it now. My office clerk didn't like having to remind me to do things and he thought I had no common sense because I didn't read between the lines and because I took things literal and he expected me to know where things are but they kept moving stuff so I didn't know where it be. People must have the ability to find things that get moved and magically know where to look.

My boss at my first job noticed how fast I was. She did make a comment about it. I didn't know then it was her way of saying I am going too fast and I needed to slow down. I just thought she was giving me a compliment.

When I make a mistake the Boss gives me a new job and no matter how fast I go the Boss tells me to go faster till it gets to a point where I am like a chicken with his head cut off. Unless the Boss is a drug addict, he is not literally telling you to drive the company truck 100 miles an hour. This is just the Bosses way of punishing the worker and the Boss should not be taken literally. Most Bosses just want the worker to go a little faster even though it seems like the Boss is demanding the excessive speed.

Some subject I can relate to.

I am working in a hospital, research department, and everybody else in this place seems to be scheming to advance their careers, rather than try to get some decent level research done. Needless to say, I can't schmooze , and do think it's important to take your work serious, so I'm at odds with everybody else. Give my type of contract, it's hard to fire me so long as I don't get caught doing something illegal.

Result: I get ignored by the leadership, even though my wages continue to be paid.

I'd love to get away from there, but try finding a decent job when in your mid-forties with my lack of skill in presenting yourself...

I have been through 50 interviews in 2 years, so I can relate. What happened is I got friends to scrutinize my skills, family to scrutinize my skills, unobtrusively asked for advice on the job, went for interview coaching sessions so that HR professionals could watch my skills, and practiced, practiced, practiced the interview questions so I could nail them. MAN, did it ever take work, finding coworkers that were supportive on my learning experience jobs, and a couple of wrong fits. nd I got tired and depressed many times. But I have made it finally, amidst all of my blunders. And I hope that you will find a place where you are more happy!

Yeah, basically this, except I never told him. New CIO came in, gradually replaced everyone, stopped my career, and then got rid of me when he got his buddy aboard. It trainwrecked my entire career (since the position was going into management, not being technical, as much) and I'm still picking up the pieces, rebuilding things from scratch, beyond before he even came in (since my technical skills rusted as I started to manage). To say I'm angry is like saying the Titanic was a tiny little boat.

Sadly, this is not a rare occurrence. New boss has his mates to keep happy and likes to get rid of the old personnel who may still be loyal to his predecessor.

I know that this is really hard to do, but it is important after a time to let go. I know that I am hardly the one to talk, as I still dream of giving my former manager, who caused me months of agony and mental anguish, a real lecture on intelligence, Asperger's and dedication. It will never happen though, and the memories cause too much pain. I find that letting go gives me the ability to move on, try new things, and let myself heal. It is hard. But it can happen.