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Today I was at my guy's grandparent's house for dinner and the grandmother said "Don't you like us?" I just shrugged. She said I wasn't talking to them. I had nothing to say. No one's ever said that about me or had any problems with me being quiet. She was the only one ever who had that problem.

I have the same problem.
My relatives ask me why I don't like them because I don't talk to them much.

I either don't talk much or talk waaaaaay too much, about subjects that nobody but me cares about.

Or worse, there will be one person who does care and we'll make it impossible for anyone else to get a word in.

I used to be like this with some. I wish I still was. Tomorrow is going to be a hectic day because of what I call, under my breath, politics. Doing something I don't want to do that accomplishes nothing for anyone just to satisfy public norms. Tomorrow the "goal" is to see a friend and my mother. It will waste 6+ hours of my time just on the road, and is basically just to be there.

I do remember not really saying anything, and just staying in my room, but people always say "Don't you want to say hi to....? Oh come on, it's only once a ....?". If you still refuse, they threaten and/or bribe! At least they did with me when I was a little kid.

I DO have the problem catalyst describes also! Don't talk about anything on the periphery of some sciences, electronics, computers, etc.... I could talk your head off. You might as well get an encyclopedia out!

Steve

I just say I am a shy person & I do not know what to say most of the time, not that I do not like you. But ye do not know why they just come straight out with the do you not like me thing....

I have that problem sometimes as well. I don't say anything because there's nothing for me to say (and even less when you tell me to stop talking about things that only I am interested in, so it's your fault, stupid!). I'd much rather go to my room and do my own thing than sit around for two hours doing nothing with a relative who may as well have been plucked off the street at random.

A similar thing happens when I'm visiting someone else's house sometimes. It's all like "Tiiiiim! Dinner Time!!" I come down. "Did you wash your hands?" No, I go up to wash hands. "Did you turn the computer off?" No, I go up to turn it off. "Don't slouch, you're at someone else's house!" I unslouch grudgingly. "Elbows off the table!" I take my effing elbows of the effing table.

[a few minutes later...]

I ask when we're going to have dinner. "It's just getting ready now."

WHAT!?! YOU MEAN TO TELL ME THAT I'VE DONE ALL THAT AND IT'S NOT EVEN F@$%ING READY!?! <What I feel like

I say, in a state of self-controlled calm hiding rage, that I'm a little bit irritated. As it's handed over, I stick my fork into my pasta. "A-a-a! Don't eat before everyone's at the table!" I try eating again. "Hold on! Grandma wants to prair." I would've burst, if it wasn't a religious thing. I start putting mayo over my macoroni. "Don't you want this? You always have it at home." I say that I don't want it today. "Well, I prepared this specially for you, and you don't want it?!" I say angrily that I just don't feel like having it today, and say that 'You should've just asked!' I feel like adding 'You stupid hack!'

[It gets worse after tea as well]

I get up to do my own thing. "Where are you going?" I say 'back to what I was doing' "No you're not. It's rude to leave the table." I ask why. "Because everybody isn't finished."



I quaintly sit at the table and effing wait for the others to effing finish.


^Trust me, it's hard to tick me off, so when that happens, I feel like exploding and leaving for a place far away and on my own.^

WOW KBABZ! That brings back SO many memories! You might as well have been talking about me! I didn't even hear cuss words back then, but everything else was the same!

Steve

*award. Yay!*

We should start a rebeillion for quicker dinners. I'm freaking hungry, dammit, I wanna eat NOW!! !

I have this exact problem too. Where Company comes over, and I don't want to for whatever reason, talk to them. It isn't that I don't care about them, but right now I just don't feel like akwardly (spelling!! !) faking to say "hi", or smalltalk with them, when I know that I don't really mean it.

I have lost a lot of friends, because whenever someone would call me, there are lots of times where I just don't feel like talking to anyone. I know they will not understand, so I have since just bit the bullet and answered that phone.

It is just so weird to try to put words to what I am feeling, so I appologise (spelling?) if this seems incoherent.

No offence but " You sound self centred " & she did go through the trouble of making the stuff for you, did you take that into account and maybe just put yourself aside just to take a lil bit of it....

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"Did you wash your hands?" No, I go up to wash hands. "Did you turn the computer off?" No, I go up to turn it off. "Don't slouch, you're at someone else's house!" I unslouch grudgingly. "Elbows off the table!" I take my effing elbows of the effing table.
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This is just manners.... sound's more like you’re using As as an excuse to be like this...

Be lucky if someone one day doesn’t turn round and shove all the food in the bin and tell you to make it all yourself…

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It is just so weird to try to put words to what I am feeling, so I apologise (spelling?) if this seems incoherent. Would not worry 70% of us suck at it... Lemmiwinks
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To logi: I know, it's all manners, but sometimes it just really gets to me and I just can't keep up with it. It sometimes feels like you've just been told to tie your shoes, and then being complained to by the same person that you're slouching!!

I got a similar thing soon after when we went to a resteraunt. Most of what I said applied again (added to the fact we had to wait over an hour to sit at our PRE-BOOKED table!)