attractive aspie/hfa girls

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IM not trying to be rude. But I've rarely seen any good looking
aspie/hfa females or females with any type of learning/social disabilty in my life.
when in school and out of school.most females I've seen with disability are generally
not attractive, most of them ( in my opinion) are ''under average looking'' or hate to say
it ''ugly''. Yet alot men I see with as/hfa are usually ''average'' looking and few good looking.
and for me, most folks says Im average looking,and few say good looking but to the most
average looking. maybe here in oregon,the ''hot'' aspie/hfa girls are not around.

probaly just the one's i've personally seen. Cuz here in ol oregon, the b*****s aint
sweet.

upper post is just one of my many ''lame'' acts of humor.

Actually, AS is a SYNDROME! So, it figures, that affected areas can vary. Still, I am going to be on the lookout, at least around my agegroup!

Steve

Alex, does your latest girlfriend have AS? You and she look "normal".

Hmm interesting theory. Maybe non-NT women tend to not to dress , style hair and use make up as much as NT girls. I looked at old photo's at my highschool of women in the 1940's or so and the hair style and lack of makeup did not look attractive to me(note these were goodlooking cheerleader photos!). Though your likely basing your
whole theory on a small town with a small class size. And what if ASD has a 4:1 male:female ratio. And what if you are slightly underating women. From a math point of view it means your observation maybe meaningless.

I'm either aspie or hfa (not yet diagnosed, but I'm fairly sure I'm at least one of them), and also at least slightly cute.

But I think to some degree attractiveness is as much a personality and attitude thing as a physical thing - ok, some people are obviously aesthetic or ugly, going by the generl meaning of the word - but most fall somewhere in between, and the main difference tipping them one way or the other is their outlook. A confident, happy woman usually looks prettier than a depressed or insecure one - take actresses, for example. It's a general public assumption that most famous actresses are attractive, yet look carefully at their faces. There's not a lot separating them structurally from 'normal' women. Part of it is lighting and make-up, but a lot of it is just that they know how to exude confidence. So perhaps part of the problem is that the women you've seen are 'giving off a bad vibe'? After all, having a social dysfunction can be discouraging, and also, having an asd often means we don't portray facial expressions and body language in regular ways.

Or, it's possible there really is a tendency towards people on the autism spectrum not being generally aesthetic. Or you've just not met any attractive asd women yet. Just to list all the possible theories.

I've never met another aspie in real life but judging from the pic thread it seems like an even spread.

Maybe it's the confidence thing though, confidence is sexy, or so i keep getting told. I mean, happiness is definately attractive. I think it's universal, someone who is smling is more attractive than someone who isn't. Probably because your brain thinks, heh if they're happy, maybe if i hang around them i'll be happy too. Due to social problems lots of AS people probably struggle to be happy and even when they are happy, they don't do the usual things to show it and so people think they aren't.

ps:- see post above mine for a better explanation .

Billiscool. you obvioiusly haven't been to Newberg then.

George Fox has a lot of Hot attractive chicks.

Going by the american cultures standards of beauty in the 200th decade (yes thats important since standards can vary wildly by both timeframe and geographical location) I would be considered attractive.

Moreso when I wear nice clothes and makeup and smile.. hence why I try to avoid doing any of those things as much as possible. I attract too much attention already why would I encourage it?

Which is probably a lot of the reason your having a lot of trouble finding us

Your looking for polished jewels when due to our ASDs we much prefer to be a little dusty so as to not stand out if we can help it (but we usually clean up pretty good when we feel like it)

Sometimes what makes a girl on the spectrum attractive, would be her tenderness and her big heart. That's what I use, to attract Male attention. That's what I use to attract any attention. I don't feel the need for make-up, or sexy clothes.

I haven't met or seen any physically attractive male aspies. I've only seen unattractive female aspies through this site, the ones I've met up with in my local area have all been average/pretty. Two gorgeous ones. No handsome men.

I find this thread offensive.

Go and get an NT then billiscool.

If you're blind, being attractive doesn't matter at all. You'd be more worried about if they smelled nice...