turning it on and off or maybe not ASPIE?

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I'm looking for some feedback-

My almost 16 year old son is home for the holiday break. For 98% of the time his behavior has been typical for him, i.e; cannot appropriately interact with his younger sibs, hyper, anty, bored, extremely immature behavior, very disruptive, stimming, etc. However, out of the blue one morning he woke up and was different, more able to manage himself, playing nicely with his sibs, no stimming, answering questions with an appropriate volume, and so on. It seems that he has days where he seems 100% aspie and then every so often (but very rarely)he'll have days like this and I question his diagnosis. His good days are not triggered by any extermal event or situation. They just happen randomly, out of the blue like I mentioned. He claims not to be able to see any difference in his behavior whatsoever, even when I point out very specific behaviors that are different.

And I should mention that his behavior at school is different than at home. He is extremely quiet and "shy",doesn't make eye contact, hates to be called on by his teachers, won't ask questions, etc. But he isn't innapropriate or picking on people, or interacting with them like he does at home, has never been disruptive, etc. This has always been curious to me.

If his diagnosis is correct then he should demonstrate the same behaviors across the board on a consistent basis. I do understand that everyone has their good days and bad, of course, and that kids can be different in various situations. When I look at the entire picture I just can't wrap my brain around it and have it make sense.

I'd like to know from your experience if aspies can control, to some degree, or over compensate for their challenges in some situations. Or if there is some other determining factor to how symptomatic you are.

**Let me be very clear that I love and accept my son and don't want to change who he is. I don't look at non-nt behavior as something bad or that needs to be medicated or changed. It's just that so much of the time my sons behavior hinders him terribly and causes much stress for him and us.**

I could share that I have an autistic disorder, and I scored very highly on the aspie test, although it hasn't been fully proven to myself that I have asperger's. Sometimes I feel Very autistic, and sometimes I feel almost normal. I can control symptoms sometimes, but some foods trigger symptoms. UV lights bug me. Chocolate (Which I LOVE) makes me so hyped up, people can't handle it. I wouldn't question the DX, I would probebly see if there is a link to foods your son is eating. Home is probebly a comfortable place for him where he can be himself, so he will probebly let his hair down there. excercise helps me incredibly, andd deep shoulder pressure. Does he shrug his shoulders up sometimes? If so, he will most likely feel better if they are pushed down VERY hard. YEs, throughout the day, my mood varies like your sons. In the morning, I want to be left alone, I feel bad, and I can't focus, I want very little people contact, and I don't say much. After noon, i am very friendly and sociable, and very polite. I hope that helps, you could check out some of the threads on symptoms. Spirited

Does he know that at school there are situations when it is acceptable to be social?

Does he know that contact with classmates does not have to be limited to time in the classroom?

When I was in high school, I didn't feel it was ok to get to know classmates on a personal level.
But if someone I was comfortable with initiated a relationship, I usually didn't resist.
Until recently, I didn't feel that it was appropriate to ask someone for their number if they hadn't already given it to me.