what is flirting

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What constitutes flirting? Many times people thought i was flirting with them or hinting them, but actually I was just making comment or getting my point across. And why people have to flirt with each other? What's the purpose of flirting anyway?

Directly or subtly expressing your physical or romantic interest in someone - that's it.

There are no 'rules' to flirting.

Even if you approach a woman but are so nervous you stutter when you speak and sweat, that's still 'flirting' as you must find her so attractive, you're having trouble talking to her - you're expressing your interest in a non-direct way. But, even just approaching to talk to her in the first place, is a direct way of showing you're interested in them, especially in a situation such as a bar or other social place where flirting is commonplace.

Many people though, flirt 'just for fun' and have no romantic intentions of any kind at all - avoid at all costs if you want a serious LTR, or even a one-night stand.

"I was just making comment or getting my point across."

What kind of 'comments'? If you're saying to female friends and complimenting them on their looks or possible aspects of their personality, unless it's well and truly, 100%, completely and totally established you are both friends and nothing more, they may think you are interested in them romantically or physically.

I have a real problem with knowing what flirting is. Apparently when a girl flirts with me I have a tendency to respond positively and flirt back. However, I have no idea that either of us is doing it. When it happens I just think that someone is being nice and chatting to me and therefore I just chat back. This has resulted in two problems. All the time I was single, my inability to read these singles meant that no girl ever showed me she was interested in me. As I had low self esteem from school I decided that the only logical conclusion was that no sensible woman could ever be attracted too me. Not a great place to be.

The second issue was that it was my wife that pointed out that when another woman flirts with me I flirt back. Doing that when your wife is standing beside you is not considered to be a smart thing to do. Especially as I am apparently smart enough to know exactly what what is going on. The one day she said 'you really have no idea, do you'. Since then she this very funny (she has to live with me so she is allowed to laugh at my condition) and take great pleasure in laughing at the girls who think I am flirting back with them as she knows I have no idea. I am just being friendly.

This is a situation where girls have the upper hand. If you meet a guy you like just be friendly. That is really all flirting is. Girls can wait for him to ask you out. He has to put himself out there to be rejected. Enjoy that benefit and relax. Just be yourself and the flirting with take care of itself.

What annoys me is when there is a group of women/girls nearby me and some or all of them are sending me signals of attraction and even tells to get me to walk over to them and then they act shocked like what the hell is going on and they always "defend" each other by cock blocking me.

If they don't want to be hit on...why do they send guys all the wrong signals?

P.S. I wasn't misreading the women. I have read like 20 books on body language, so I know exactly what the common signs of attraction are, along with some of the more unconventional ones, yet they never seem to back up their actions. It is too predictable and is just another reason why life sucks.

It seems like a lot of people use it to attract people who they aren't even interested in so it seems pointless and cruel. Maybe some people flirt to show interest or be friendly, but it seems like a lot do it to manipulate others.

Flirting is like farting, just less appealing...

Oddly enough, every time I have ever tried 'flirting', it gets botched very, very quickly.

However, many times I am not flirting, or trying to flirt, I get taken as being flirty. I have been surprised many times by getting a number or something like that out of the blue. And then...instantly...I turn into a complete moron.

Been reminded of this by wives and girlfriends.

Really sucks to be accused of something you have no idea how to do.