do aspies prefer to live in non crowded places?

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i live in the city, but not by choice. i'd love to live far away from cars, people, and houses. i'd like to live in the woods with the nearest house two miles away. sounds like heaven. i can talk to deer/antelopes and fox every day and not get lonely.
where would you like to live? does the city noise and crowds bother you? do your neighbors drive you nuts?

In theory I would love to live somewhere with the infrastructure of New York City.

In practice I'm coping a hell of a lot better living in the quiet countryside.

I was raised in a densely-crowded part of Los Angeles, but now that my wife and I are out in the country, I'd never willingly go back to a busy city. I like being close enough (a few hours drive) to a big city because of the ability to get things and find services, etc. I like being my own weird self, which cannot be enjoyed in the city. I collect air raid sirens, and I don't think people on park Avenue in NYC would like that too much, and I also like to just walk out the front door and practice target shooting, or any number of other noisy or frightening-to-bystanders activities

Charles

city city city, the bigger the better.

if i lived out in the countryside with no one around me, i would literally go crazy. in the city there are lot of single and lonely people and the whole alienation theme fits. you can live near and even with people without really interacting. so you feel as though you have a social environment by being around people all the time and having superficial interactions that i can do well. i cannot live that socially deprived. yes, as an "aspie" (if you want to use that label) i have difficulties doing the right thing socially and only so much energy that i can invest in social environments, but that doesn't mean that i don't need/want social interactions. i am not one of those people who can live out there in the woods and not talk to another soul for 1 week.

(also i love how big cities work, the infrastructure and the efficiency. how so many people can live in such a small place and it somehow functions. if you want infrastructure and efficiency is a special interest of mine, so i enjoy being in cities)

also i think you wanna replace "urban home" with "rural home" in the last poll option. doesn't make sense to me otherwise..

I hate the crowds, noise and crime of major cities, but I grew up in the country with my parents where we were quite far from everything. As a kid there were other kids and relatives I could visit and play with and I was usually good at keeping myself entertained thanks to my "special interests", except for my drawing cartoons, back then that was called a talent. But when I got older nearly everyone I knew ended up leaving and going at least halfway across the country just to find work. There is virtually nothing to do where my parents live and nowhere to go without a car, which I don't have. People think there is something horribly wrong with you if you don't drive a car even if you live in a city where it's easier to travel by bus or on foot things even though it's good exercise or doesn't pollute. Anyway, my last few years before moving out of my parents home, which unlike most people wasn't until I was 21 and sent to a group home, I was very bored, restless and anxious (although that may have partly been from side effects from the horrible drugs they put me on after wrongly being diagnosed with schizophrenia form disorder). The city I live in now is not really like a city, it's more like a town with a couple of city-like characteristics. I live in an good, spacious apartment but the neighbors are usually quiet except for what I think is a kid occasionally banging around downstairs. I used to go out and do things here more often when I was younger but now I don't as much and sometimes get bored. It's much easier for me to go shopping or pick up my meds at the drug store because I can usually just walk there and stuff, but it's usually quiet and dull around here. It can also be a challenge finding stores that actually have stuff for my interests and hobbies. And as for finding a real job where you can put your writing and drawing talents to good use, forget it! Unless you're talented at playing the fiddle or singing songs about coal miners there's really nothing for you here.

I prefer no people nearby AND the conveniences of the city. But that's not really possible.

I live in a small town in a rural area now after living most of my life in a larger town or city, and the conveniences of the city are what I miss the most. Things like good public transportation, not necessarily needing a car, lots of restaurants, libraries, and convenient shopping. So I can't really answer. They both have their pros and cons.

Small towns aren't really my thing, and in order to live away from people one usually needs to deal with the small town atmosphere, at least sometimes, where people aren't as open-minded and accepting of differences as they are in an urban environment. I live in town, as I would have to be rich to afford a large property here. Geographically I'm in a fishbowl, with other houses close by, and because most of them are rentals, neighbors come and go, some keep to themselves, others can be nuisances. There are no street lights or sidewalks, and though there is shopping in town, in order to get the discounts our lower income requires us to search out, we have to drive some ways to the next city to shop, which requires a car. There is one bus stop in town, and it only connects to points south, since we're just south of a county line, while the nearest lower cost shopping we prefer is in the next county to the north. Our library is tiny and there are no bookstores nearby. A lot of businesses are closed on Sunday - which was rare in the city.

The way I see it a small town has all the problems of the city, if not more, and none of the conveniences.

If one has a lot of money, they can afford a nice piece of property one still won't have the conveniences of the city. But at least then one could also presumably afford a good car to get there.

It's also much more difficult to find good jobs in a small town. They are few and far between and too often low paying.

Do any posters believe that the presence of other aspie(s) would have any impact on a preference for a location? I know it would have an impact on my decision.

I lived in Montana for eight years and didn't like it. Only thing I liked about it was the snow. I prefer cities.

My community has a population of about 70 in an area of about 50 square miles. I've known nearly every neighbor or their parents and/or grandparents since I was a little kid. People tend to help each other when they need it.

For example, one family's water well can't provide them with enough water so they bring a water truck over and get water every few days from us (we have two water wells). That makes our water supply pretty tight as well -- there is enough for the houses and a limited garden, but not enough to do things like water the lawn which we wouldn't do anyway.

On the one hand I would like to live in a less crowded area, but I would likely miss the extra support because I would have to rely on myself to do nearly everything.

I've lived in the big city - two of them, in fact - and now live in a town. I could never return to the city. Too noisy, hectic and fast-paced. I always felt like I was on a treadmill I couldn't get off. The constant electronic noises were particularly bad, because I got to the point where I couldn't tell if they were real or if I was hallucinating them due to stress and anxiety.

My town is big enough to have all the essential services and yet small enough to feel "manageable". Many things are a short drive away and it is very rare that there are traffic jams on a big city scale. I am lucky with my neighbours, as they are mostly quiet. One day I hope to be able to buy a small property here.

not that i like having to drive a long time to make it to civilization for supplies, but i've never been able to afford anything closer in.

Rural for me

I don't have Aspergers, but sometimes, it's all 3. A lot of the times, I wished we lived in the countryside again. But then I think about living in the countryside again, and it sounds boring as all hell because there's nothin' to do unless you live in the city. Then I think about all the damn people living in a big city and would rather live in the countryside. Other downside to living in the countryside is you can hear everything your stupid neighbors are doing 2 or 3 miles away because there's not many houses around. It's a triple edged sword.

almost nothing beats the quiet of the countryside, of being able to hear the soft fluffy sound of falling snow hitting the ground.