Girl freaked out for no reason!! !!

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I was riding the bus downtown from the college as usual. Two girls got on the bus, a very pretty girl with long black hair and about my height, and a shorter girl with brown hair. They swiped their bus tickets and presumably sat in the back of the bus.

Everything seemed normal until the bus got to the downtown terminal. Since there was a half-hour until I could transfer to another bus to get home, I decided to go to a nearby coffee shop as usual. I was one of the last people to get off the bus. As soon as I exited through the rear door, the tall black-haired girl looked at me for a small fraction of a second, and then ran off, forcing her friend to follow, as if I was going to follow them to wherever they were going to go. I desperately hoped that they weren't going to go into the coffee shop. They didn't (whew!).

Their reaction to me was rude and totally uncalled for. What would cause an 18-ish year old girl that never saw me before to react to me like that in a split second.........Wait, perhaps the wonderful Sandy Hook shooting, which helped stigmatize us aspies even more despite news companies like CNN, ABC, NBC, and CBS stating the truth that the vast majority of us on the spectrum are not violent. Gotta love yellow journalism overruling news companies. (NOT!!). That kind of s*** pisses me off royally!! ! Us aspies are not f***ing monsters!! !!

How would they know you were an Aspie?

I have doubts they ran becouse of you, people do really odd things that can't be explained quite often, more so with teenagers. I know this aspie is often left to wonder becouse I miss 90% of what goes on and only see the most dramatic events however from your post it sounds like they planned to run ahead of time.

Maybe the look at you was a coincidence and they had just realised that they needed to rush to transfer to another bus?

NT guys do the same thing. It's usually triggered by sporting events.

Ah, well, if freaking out randomly is the worst they do, I think I can live with it!

By the way--if you were involved at all in their behavior, it was probably because you had been perceived as making eye contact with one or both of the girls. Then when they see you exiting the bus at their stop, they perceive you as "following" them. A little paranoia, and you turn into the boogeyman. Maybe it'll serve them well some day when some creep really does try to stalk them; who knows?

NTs often do misinterpret our signals. They assume we speak the same non-verbal language they do, so they can't read us very well.

What's the chance that these girls' actions actually had anything to do with you? My guess... eh, about one in four, maybe. There's a chance. But the more likely explanation is that they were just being a couple of teenagers, barely old enough to be on their own, freaking out randomly.

And you think, we can solve an riddle as old as humanity itself, in an few minutes? Not even teenagers themselves understand puberty. ^^

Did the girl make eye contact with you? You assume she was NT - maybe she wasn't and was disturbed by the eye contact. I say this because this happened to me once in a supermarket - a girl looked my straight in the eyes and very intensely and I found it distressing and had to get away. It wasn't her fault - all she did was look at me, but my reaction was extreme.

I think if a person turns round and sees a person behind them staring right at them it can be a bit scary - I've done it myself and it's scary as you think the person's attention might have been on you before you turned round so it can make you jump a bit and
feel paranoid as to why the person is looking at you (even though in effect they initiated it by looking back at you)

To NT's, eye contact is often seen as intentional ie there's a reason for it. There is such a thing as neutral eye contact but depending on the person receiving it, they can interpret it in all manner of different ways so an arrogant person can assume anyone of the opposite gender making eye contact must fancy them - even though the eye contact will often have been completely
accidental/random. You should take no notice of people like this - they are just trying to create drama and a sense of self-importance where there is none. Teenagers are notorious for it and adults do it too. It's meaningless so try not to let it bother you.

A way to have given the message to the girl that you are no threat (We know you aren't but this is just to reassure her as she doesn't know you) would be to look confidently away from her in another direction (not down) when she looked at you, as if to say 'I have no particular desire to look at you'. Holding her gaze might have been what unnerved her (if you did that is)

This is all speculation though - just my interpretation of what could have happened.

Overall though don't worry - I've had this type of thing happen loads of times - it's just people being people!

You're a young man and they're two young girls. Hormones and just general silliness grip them and they do odd things. I'm sure I acted this way in the presence of the opposite sex, when I was with a group of girls, but I probably would have been much younger than those two. By the time I was 18, I was well past that, but many girls aren't. Don't worry about it. In fact, possibly they thought you were attractive and that you might have had the same feeling about them. Who can know the mind of a teenage girl?