Indecision

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Who else here battles with inability to make decisions? Many of the problems I had in the past were because I found myself unable to make a suitable logical decision. It's not that I'm wishy-washy or something, just that I often let windows of opportunity slip by or make bad financial and other choices.

I'm curious to know who else feels this way.

This is my greatest stumbling block in life. With the little things I'd I can't find a rational reason to choose I will struggle to make a simple decision. on the larger things I will analyze the situation to death and either miss the opportunity or melt down from the stress.

I too, struggle with making decisions. I also hate it when people hurry me up and make decisions for me or tell me what I should do (as if they were me).

I think most of this involves the fact that I look at things logically, but in a way that isn't what is expected of me by society. Take for example> I called out of work to deal with my car issues and my cousin's funeral; my parents told me I should've dropped off the car and gone to work and wait til Sunday (my day off) for the reception they're having at their house for my cousin. I didn't think of it like that... I knew that dealing with my car/new repair shop, unknown problem would take literally all of my energy for the day, how the !@()$#*&@$ was I to actually work? I do work as a line cook so it's not something I can really be distracted doing (hot grill, sharp knives, 10-minute ticket times!)

Yeah, made sense to me, I have had a fit this morning, calmed down, washed some dishes, will be picking up my car later today and also made up my work shift later in the week.

How to make a decision:


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The problem for me arises when there is too much information combined with no real "will" in a direction...

Like say my cat needs surgery, I know I can borrow the money, I love my cat, how do I get a good deal, how can I "shop around" !? for vets, all I know is that I want my cat to live -- so there is a clear "will" in that situation that will guide my decision.

So change it to what to do with my life. Too much information and no direction. The possibilities are all equal because I can't imagine myself in a situation to "try it out" beforehand like other people can. I get a job and don't know if I'll like it until I realize months down the road I've given 'liking my job' absolutely no thought! So I'm just there, at work, and it isn't horrible since I've stayed but I have lost the ability to make a 'do I like this job' analysis. Then I realize that what I like about things is pretty irrelevant and I just end up doing things because everything is constantly changing. It's easier to not think about liking stuff and just doing stuff. So you get into this mode enough and you might stop one day and realize you eat turkey sandwiches every day for lunch and drive the same car for 20 years because you're in 'no-decision' mode; you're just going and doing what you've always done. I don't even know how that gets started but it's definitely a mind-set.

When I made the decision to call out of work, there was a clear will component (I cannot deal with car problems + work, logistics, I didn't even think about the shuttle bringing me to and from work, information wasn't available to process) but a lack of overall information, I got 'railroaded' in my thought process, stuck on 'can't do work + deal with car'. So there was the malfunction. I would like to understand the Stakeholders reference better. I think a lot of life is a balancing act between these Stakeholders, so that makes the decision making process even more challenging.

TLDR: Getting stuck on one thing, making a decision on that, not considering other alternatives (one-track mind), plus difficulty prioritizing = poor decision making skills.

I think I might have a problem with this, but I'm not sure. It's hard to know where the line is...

To expand on my previous, humourous answer; yes, there are times I can make up my mind easily. A few, specific times.

If one of my cats was sick, I'd do anything I possibly could to help them. I'd have given one of my own kidneys to the cat I lost to kidney disease, if he could have used it. The thing is, though, there isn't really a decision there: there's pretty much only one choice. The others aren't even worth thinking about.

If I have to actually think about it because there's more than one option, then I get stuck. Now, again, if there was something really important at stake, like my cats, then I'd just snatch at the best choice for them and to heck with the rest of it. But if there wasn't that imperative to shove me past the point of decision, I'd sit there considering every possible point I could.

Depends. Sometimes it can take me a lot of time to decide, some other times I can be very impulsive and decide without realizing what's better or what's worse.

Same boat as you all. Indecision can be crippling. It's gotten so frustrating that I basically refuse to decide or hold opinions on anything. Rotten Tomatoes tells me how to feel about a movie, Amazon tells me how to feel about a book and Yelp tells me how to feel about a meal. The opinions I hold dearly are political and for all I know, those are simply borne of media propaganda.

I havent made up mind, one way or the other, about whether or not I would classify myself as 'indecisive'.

I have a lot of difficulty making simple decisions. It is so crippling and time - consuming. It is so frustrating I can't get started on simple tasks. I really want to know how to be less indecisive.

It isn't so much indecision with me, as it is with making impulsive decisions and coming to regret them later. This almost always comes in the form of buying things that I want on a whim and then regretting it when I lose interest in them, which tends to happen very rapidly. A lot of times I even buy things that I think I might like, only to lose interest when it fails to meet my expectations.

Part of the problem is that I'm never satisfied - there's always something else that I want. I feel the need to shop constantly; even when Christmas and my birthday are over! I think a quote from the Jim Carrey version of the Grinch sums it up best: "The avarice never ends! 'I want diamonds!' I want golf clubs!' 'I want a pony so I could ride it twice, get bored, and sell it to make glue!'"

*sigh* Yes, I even have this problem too. One of my many trouble spots in life.

I am very indecisive, too.

It's probably one of the major factors in my life that have been making my life difficult.

I over-analyze and get stressed out even over small things. I envy those who can just casually and quickly make decisions.

Ditto