Do you ever feel NT?

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Most of the time, my differences from other people are pretty apparent. No matter where I am, I just can't ignore them. But some days, I just feel totally normal, like I'm the same as every other NT around. Those times are very rare, but I do have them. Usually it's when I'm out doing something in public, and I actually feel relaxed.
Anyone else ever had a similar experience?

I cannot say that I have ever felt entirely "relaxed" around others, though I do have episodes of extremely accurate mind-reading and being able to decode non-verbal communication that cause me to question my lack of neurotypicality.

I tend to feel like this when I spend long periods of time alone. For example, during my freshman year of college, I was pretty much a ghost. I had a room to myself and wasn't part of any social groups or extracurricular activities or anything, and I didn't make any friends. I just sort of phased through classes and spent my free time walking around the city in total solitude.

Given all this, I really had no point of reference other than myself. Everything I did was "normal" because there was no one around to compare myself to, and no one to comment on my thoughts or behaviors.

It wasn't until I attempted to join this writing group that I felt that jarring difference. I just felt incredibly awkward, like everyone was judging me and I didn't really know how to socialize or relate to what they were saying. Naturally, I didn't stick around for long. After two or three meetings I decided that I didn't belong there and decided to remove myself that situation.

But to answer your question, yes. Sometimes I do feel "normal" when I'm able to completely isolate myself.

Every once in a while I'll have a social interaction with a stranger that goes "normally" if not well, and I'm surprised by how easy it was to smile, shake hands, remember to give them my name and answer their initial small-talk question well (many more than two or three such questions and I invariably run out of things to say). Coming away from moments like that, I feel both validated and nervous, as if maybe I've been kidding myself about having AS all this time. It feels a lot better than the times I know I screwed up though and want to crawl in a hole and die.

Same thing here.
Sometimes it happens, but then I usually end up asking myself "What is wrong with you, is that really you?" and such moments are rare anyway.

The only time I feel normal is when others are having deep philosophical conversations with me or they actually say something interesting or peculiar. Other than that I can't relate to whatever normal people talk about.

Yes when I feel in control.

On rare occasions I feel particularly social (usually around people I know well) and I'm in a good mood and conversation just seems to flow and I seem to just say the right things. At those times I wonder: "is this how 'normal' people feel all the time?" I think it's an impossible question to answer since I've never experienced the world through anyone else's mind and never will.

Every now and then I nail social interaction to the point that I imagine it looks totally normal and effortless, but it actually required a lot of conscious thought and more often than not, quite a bit of luck.

It depends also on the person, some I feel more comfortable talking with and that makes it easier, but the moment I realize it's not going well I tend lock up as my mind simultaneously races and loses focus at the same time.

I don't know what it feels like to be autistic, let alone like anyone else.

Sometimes I feel more social, is it enough to make me feel a bit like a NT ? I doubt it.
How can I know how a NT feels ? Maybe a NT has its moments in which he/she feels like an Aspie, who knows...